Advice on manners and morals.
Jan. 17 1998 3:30 AM

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I sincerely hope you will not find cause to "go back to [your] needlepoint" anytime soon [see the Jan. 1, 1998, "Dear Prudence"]. I realize that this feeling is quite selfish, as it ignores any potential need for needlepoint items you might have, but all I can offer is the assurance that it is an honest sentiment: Having been born a century too late, this admirer of yours is pleased to see that not everyone has adopted the social graces of Beavis and Butt-Head or, for that matter, of the average politician.


May your needlepoint suffer from years and years of utter neglect!

--Felix Kasza

Dear Mr. Kasza,

Thanks, I'll let the needlepoint rest for a while longer.

--Prudence, gratefully

Dear Prudence,

Maybe you can help. My friend has loved the same person for over 20 years. While he has been and done so many things to end the relationship forever, she is so loving and forgiving. Now, the big one has happened. He took her car ... and has not been seen for four days now. He moved here from another state and his surroundings are new, but we as family have tried to bring him into the fold. Now he's gone. My friend's heart is broken and I can't help. I think he was using her all the time. What can I do? I'm VERY worried about my friend's mentation.


Dear Help,

You ask what you can do. You can play only a secondary role. Only she can salvage her life. If she is determined to do that, you can help her; otherwise, you can't.