Advice on manners and morals.
Jan. 17 1998 3:30 AM

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How about: "The OECD tax-free store is having a sale on Chanel No. 5. Should I buy some for your wife?"


Of course, you could just ask him.

--Prudence, delightedly

Dear Prudence,

Is it proper etiquette to e-mail thank-you notes? It seems OK to send invitations by e-mail (for dinners or parties), and I announced my engagement this way to many people (easier than calling them all on the phone). But whenever I e-mail a thank-you note (for dinner parties or gifts), I always end up sending a snail-mail note as well--out of guilt. I doubt that I will send thank-you notes for wedding gifts this way, but I am curious to know what others think, especially Emily Post.

--Pamela L. in Seattle

Dear Pamela,

I don't know what Emily Post thinks. She doesn't have an e-mail address. I believe thank-you notes to persons you know and care about should be individually handwritten and sent by snail mail. That is a way to show the depth of your gratitude and affection. Even on occasions where use of a printed acknowledgment is appropriate, as in acknowledging the receipt of letters of condolence upon bereavement, the printed card should be signed by hand with a personal word added.

If you want to send Bill Clinton a letter thanking him for the fine state of the U.S. economy, you can send that by e-mail. (For more information, see the White House Web site.)

--Prudence, traditionally

Dear Prudence,