Digital Manners: Parents Never Come to The Door To Pick Up Their Kids From Our House—They Just Text.

Navigating the intersection of etiquette and technology.
March 13 2012 1:42 PM

Drive-By Texting (Transcript)

Parents never come to the door to pick up their kids from our house—they just text.

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Emily:  I have to say that when parents come and pick my daughter’s friends up, I do like to meet them once or so, but there are some parents who come in every time – and you will not believe how slow teenagers are at putting their shoes on. It’s like having kindergarteners. So you’re standing there, “Hey, how are you…” thinking, “Kids, please hurry up.”

Once you’ve already met, if you’re not pursuing a friendship, you’re not social friends, then when my daughter has a group over, usually it’s one by one the parents come, they send a text, the kid goes out the door and that’s just fine with everyone. But I do think that it is important to have established at least one or twice some face time.

Farhad:  I agree with that. I think that you should meet them at least once. I think expecting it more often or all the time, that’s too much.

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Emily:  But Farhad, you’re the parent of a young child. I know, for me, now my daughter is a teenager so I’m not really making new friends out of the parents of her classmates even though she went to a new high school. But when she was little, a lot of my dearest friends now I met through my young daughter. To totally lose that would be really sad.

Farhad:  Yeah. But my son is not old enough to understand text, so it wouldn’t really work.

Emily:  Right. But I’m saying as he does get older. There is something really sweet about those years when you do make connections with other parents who are in the same situation you are.

Farhad, my bottom line is get my bottom up out of the car seat and, at least the first time, go to the door. I think the letter writer is right.

Farhad:  I agree with that. I just don’t think you should feel guilty if you don’t go all the time.

Emily: Send us your questions about shifting etiquette in the online age. Our address is digitalmanners@slate.com

Farhad:  You can also join our Facebook page where we carry on the conversation throughout the week.  Go to www.Facebook.com/digitalmanners.

Emily:  And we’ll talk to you next time on Manners for the Digital Age.

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