It’s Valentine’s Day, and people across the country will attempt to spice up their sex lives by trying something new in the bedroom. But even partners in healthy relationships often hesitate to share their kinks out of fear of appearing “weird.” That’s why Slate built the below widget, inspired by MojoUpgrade.com. It’ll ask both of you about your bedroom curiosities, but you’ll each only see where your fantasies align. And remember: Communication is key. Happy Valentine-ing!