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Sept. 25 2014 3:16 PM

Mom and Dad Are Fighting: The “Should I Even Be a Parent?” Edition

Listen to Slate’s parenting podcast on youth football, books with great female heroes, and ambivalence about having kids in the first place.

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In this week’s edition of Slate’s parenting podcast Mom and Dad Are Fighting, Slate editors Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk to Mike Pesca, host of Slate’s The Gist, about why he’ll let his kids play tackle football. Then, Allison and Dan debate how childless (or child-free!) people should decide whether to have kids at all. Then, Dan and Allison debate the merits of the family dinner. Plus a listener call about books featuring great female heroes, and parenting triumphs and fails.  


Other items discussed on the show:

Here’s the list of books with great heroines recommended by Dan and Amy Blaine, intrepid librarian at Jamestown Elementary in Arlington, Virginia:

Picture Books
Here Come the Girl Scouts! by Shana Corey
What to Do About Alice?
By Barbara Kerley
Heart on Fire
by Ann Malaspina
Amelia and Eleanor Go for a Ride
by Pam Munoz Ryan


Young Readers
Gooney Bird Greene by Lois Lowry
by Sara Pennypacker
by Kevin Henkes
Mercy Watson
by Kate DiCamillo

Middle Grade
Amelia Rules! by Jimmy Gownley
The Girl With the Silver Eyes by Willo Davis Roberts
The Evolution of Calpurnia Tate by Jacqueline Kelly
One Crazy Summer by Rita Williams Garcia

Mom and Dad recommend:

Allison recommends MIT’s breast pump hackathon and “recommends” “Steve Jobs Was a Low-Tech Parent” by Nick Bilton.

Dan recommends two middle-grade books by S.S. Taylor and Katherine Roy: The Expeditioners and the Treasure of Drowned Man’s Canyon and The Expeditioners and the Secret of King Triton’s Lair.

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Mom and Dad Are Fighting is produced by Ann Hepperman. The executive producer of Slate podcasts is Andy Bowers.

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Allison Benedikt is Slate’s executive editor. Follow her on Twitter.

Dan Kois edits and writes for Slate’s human interest and culture departments. He’s the co-author, with Isaac Butler, of The World Only Spins Forward, a history of Angels in America, and is writing a book called How to Be a Family.