Should I Tell a Cheating Guy’s Girlfriend That We Hooked Up?

Navigating the intersection of etiquette and technology.
March 6 2012 4:09 PM

Revenge of the Facebook Stalker

I hooked up with a jerk who has a girlfriend—should I rat him out online?

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This week, Farhad Manjoo and Emily Yoffe debate the question: Should you tell a cheater’s significant other about his extracurricular activities via Facebook, especially if you’re the one he cheated with? This week’s letter writer found her hook-up’s girlfriend on the site and now wonders whether she should spill the beans.

Send us your questions about etiquette dilemmas posed by new technology. Our email address is digitalmanners@slate.com.

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Podcast produced by Melonyce McAfee.

Farhad Manjoo is a technology columnist for the New York Times and the author of True Enough.

Emily Yoffe is a regular Slate contributor. She writes the Dear Prudence column. 

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