Digital Manners: When Facebook Says Your Friends Are Hanging Out Without You

Navigating the intersection of etiquette and technology.
Jan. 17 2012 4:31 PM

Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?

What to do when Facebook reveals your friends didn’t invite you to an event.

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This week, Farhad Manjoo and Emily Yoffe debate the question: When you’re hanging out with pals, but other friends aren’t invited, is it rude to post the details to Facebook?

What's your opinion about this week's manners dilemma?

Send us your questions about etiquette dilemmas posed by new technology. Our email address is digitalmanners@slate.com.

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Podcast produced by Melonyce McAfee.

Farhad Manjoo is a technology columnist for the New York Times and the author of True Enough.

Emily Yoffe is a regular Slate contributor. She writes the Dear Prudence column. 

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