Dear Prudence podcast: The “Go Dutch” edition.

Help! My Friend Makes Me Split an Entrée Whenever It’s Her Turn to Buy.

Help! My Friend Makes Me Split an Entrée Whenever It’s Her Turn to Buy.

Advice on manners and morals.
Oct. 25 2017 8:00 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Go Dutch” Edition

My friend forces me to share a dish whenever she’s supposed to foot the bill. Help!

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Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Thinkstock.

Writer and Bitch magazine co-founder Lisa Jervis joins Prudence to hash out how to be the best “mysterious widow.” Then, your letters: Should I tell an acquaintance her boyfriend is a known rapist? My sister’s fertility battle is making her stepdaughter feel like she doesn’t count as a child. I just found out my father-in-law was abusive—how do I tell my husband I don’t want his dad around our kids? I’m disappointed with my wedding photos. My friend asks to “split” an entree every time it’s her turn to buy lunch. How can I get my in-laws to shut up about my choice not to have kids? My mom calls me several times a week and only talks about herself—how do I get her to back off?

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