Dear Prudence: The “Either/Or” Edition

Binary choices, a Prudie impostor, and the limits of civility after Trump.

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What should you do if you’re upset about the election? Prudence offers several suggestions and opines on the limits of civility. Then, Prudie and Vice News technology editor Noah Kulwin discuss binaries. If you’re not close with your nephew, should you really give him your old car instead of gifting it to your goddaughter? Should your live-in boyfriend take your side or your crazy landlord’s? Should you stay or go upon discovering what terrible things your fiancé said about you on Twitter? Plus: a small-town conflict, nonmonogamy, and beware of fake Dear Prudence.

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