Mom and Dad Are Fighting: Child support and the decision not to have kids.

What Should Happen to a Father Who Can’t Afford to Pay Child Support? 

What Should Happen to a Father Who Can’t Afford to Pay Child Support? 

Slate's parenting podcast.
April 23 2015 10:14 AM

Mom and Dad Are Fighting: The Barrenness Edition

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In this week’s edition of Slate’s parenting podcast Mom and Dad Are Fighting, Slate editors Allison Benedikt and Dan Kois talk to writer and mother Kimberly Seals Allers about child support and why she decided to forgive her ex-husband’s $38,750 debt. Then, a conversation with writer Meghan Daum about the choice not to have kids and her new book, Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids, which features essays by Anna Holmes, Laura Kipnis, Geoff Dyer, and Lionel Shriver, among others. Also: parenting triumphs and fails, a listener call about pacifiers, and recommendations.


This week on Slate Plus, Allison Benedikt talks with Heidi Moon, a product manager at Slate and the mother of an 11-year-old daughter, about an amazing parenting triumph or heartbreaking fail.

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Mom and Dad recommend:


Allison recommends that you visit Harold’s Place, a bar inside this hotel in Naples, Florida. She does not recommend bringing kids along to open houses. If listeners have advice on how to make house-hunting fun for kids, email

Dan recommends the original Broadway version of Into the Woods, on streaming and DVD.

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Podcast produced by Ann Hepperman. Our intern is Jessie Chasen-Taber. 

Allison Benedikt is Slate’s executive editor. Follow her on Twitter.

Dan Kois edits and writes for Slate’s human interest and culture departments. He’s the co-author, with Isaac Butler, of The World Only Spins Forward, a history of Angels in America, and is writing a book called How to Be a Family.