Dear Prudence podcast: The “Sister Misery” edition.

Help! My Sister Seems Determined to Stay Miserable, Even When I Offer Help.

Help! My Sister Seems Determined to Stay Miserable, Even When I Offer Help.

Advice on manners and morals.
Sept. 12 2018 12:52 PM

Dear Prudence: The “Sister Misery” Edition

My sister constantly complains about being an overworked mom but hates when I try to help out. Help!

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Prudence is joined this week by Portland, Oregon–based author and technology expert Brook Shelley. Brook works for Turbine Labs and chairs the board for Basic Rights Oregon. Together, they tackle letters about what to do when your stressed-out sister won’t stop complaining, how to handle guilt for not being “lesbian enough,” what actions to take when your racist uncle yells at his biracial stepdaughter, and how to tell your boyfriend that you faked every orgasm in their relationship.

Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Brook discuss a letter writer who is triggered every time she hears yelling in her rowdy college town and what to do when your sister takes advantage of your family’s kindness.


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