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Help! My Wife Changes “Harry Potter” to “Harriet Potter.” Is This Bad for Our Daughter?

Help! My Wife Changes “Harry Potter” to “Harriet Potter.” Is This Bad for Our Daughter?

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April 4 2018 8:00 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Wizard Privilege” Edition

My wife often makes classic book protagonists female. I’m worried our daughter will be confused when she reads them herself. Help!


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Prudence is joined by Margie Omero, a Democratic pollster and co-host of the bipartisan podcast The Pollsters. First up, my life feels unglamorous and the TV shows I watch just make me bitter—how can I address this? Next, I have a great relationship with my mother, but she owes me money I need for rent. Then, my wife often changes the gender of traditional men-dominated stories when she reads them to our daughter, and I worry this could be jarring for her when she is able to read them for herself.

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