Dear Prudence podcast: The “Expensive Bulk Food Grazer” edition.

Help! Is It OK That My Friend Sampled Expensive Nuts in the Grocery Store and Didn’t Buy Any?

Help! Is It OK That My Friend Sampled Expensive Nuts in the Grocery Store and Didn’t Buy Any?

Advice on manners and morals.
April 18 2018 7:00 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Expensive Bulk Food Grazer” Edition

My friend grabbed handfuls of nuts at the store and ate them without paying. Help!


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Prudence is joined this week by Paola Dayanan, a TV-obsessed HR professional from northern Virginia. First, I’ve taken some time off from work because I’m struggling with anxiety after two devastating losses, and now my manager thinks I should look for a different job—what should I do? Next, I watched in horror as I watched a friend grab handfuls of expensive bulk snacks while walking through the grocery store without paying—isn’t that stealing? Then, a friend group questioned my sexuality after some brief comments I made, and now I’m wondering if this is worth revisiting with them.

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