Perhaps you see an opening to eliminate an uncomfortable situation from your new marriage and get David and his mother out of your life. Drop it, encourage Ken's relationship with his son, and embrace the boy.
In response, switters erupts, "Goddammit, Prude, there are people hurting out there!"
No, Prudie, it's not a big deal, except when you consider that if David's mother decides to get a paternity test and it's discovered he's not Ken's son, David is ripped away from him like an aborted fetus. [...] The dude's terrified that his son may technically, legally and biologically not be his and all of the various ramifications such knowledge would inevitably bring about. [...]
You're reading into her letter some sort of underlying motive of getting "David and his mother out of your life." Oh sure, you're free to apply whatever hermeneutical interpretive devices you care to upon your letters. But immediately portraying her as an evil step-mother crosses the line when there's so little evidence to back it up. [...] God forbid she's actually looking for some constructive advice on how to help her future husband protect himself from unpleasantness.
So, who's to judge? Why not you? Just bring your own stones. GA … 3:00pm PDT