Love Actually Almost Included a Lesbian Romance
There are two kinds of people in this world: Those who think Love Actually is a terrible, hackneyed, lazily anti-American trash bin of a movie, and philistines with no taste. Despite the presence of many wonderful actors who I adore in pretty much every other movie (I’ll wait while you collect yourself after thinking about Emma Thompson’s hankie-dampening scenes), I feel myself getting crabby every time I think of its cheap, hacky, and did I mention lazily anti-American schlock. I always took comfort in the fact that writer/director Richard Curtis at least left the homosexuals out of his sugary parade of vignettes.
This week, Entertainment Weekly, via BuzzFeed, surfaced some material from the Love Actually DVD that made me realize that were it not for a storytelling snafu, I might have been won over by this terrible movie.
On the DVD, Curtis describes a storyline that was written and filmed but had to be cut from the final version when an element in another story was changed. The plot involved Anne Reid, who viewers would first meet as a stern headmistress, only later to learn that she was a lesbian whose lover, played by Frances de la Tour, was terminally ill.
I Was a Teenage Lesbian Cybersex Junkie
When I was 15 or 16, I thought I was in love with a married Midwestern housewife. She wrote telling me how sad she was to be trapped in an abusive relationship with a man she’d never loved, and I responded with stories about how I was tough and could take on her husband. She was probably somewhere between 30 and 40, I was a 5’2” eleventh-grader who’d never thrown a punch. Although I later grew a lot more skeptical about the things I heard online, I’ve always assumed she really was female (largely because the amorous content of her messages always stopped at kissing)—but her actual age, sex, and location, and her real domestic situation are all details I could never verify. “Heather” stopped messaging me abruptly several months after we started talking. She was a grown woman, and I never lied about how young I was. Even so, I’ve never been quite sure which one of us was being catfished. After all, I certainly had zero intention of flying to Kansas—or wherever she was from—to try to beat up an abusive husband.
Growing up gay online in the late ’90s and early 2000s was complicated like that. There were headlines about sexual predators and vulnerable children, there were jokes about how there were no girls on the Internet, and then there was the reality of muddled, questioning, socially isolated adolescents, staying up all night, typing at whoever was out there. As one of those awkward, Internet-obsessed young people, my experiences growing up online have been stamped indelibly, for good or for ill, on my awkward, Internet-obsessed adulthood.
DWTS Goes Super Queer With Who Is Fancy, Ariana Grande, and Meghan Trainor
Monday night’s episode of Dancing With the Stars—the first of a two-part season finale—featured the usual updated takes on classic dances like the foxtrot and the quickstep. But the show, and presumably much of its audience, was treated to something fantastically fresh and very queer when special guest performers Who Is Fancy, Ariana Grande, and Meghan Trainor took the floor to perform Fancy’s soulful new single “Boys Like You.”
The song, which features verses and sexy harmonies from all three singers, details their shared penchant for crossing lines and breaking rules to get at a certain kind of boy. That a desire for men is spread equally in the lyrics among a gay man and straight women is already progressive, but add a phalanx of handsome, suspendered DWTS dancers to the mix—as well as Fancy’s femme self-stylings (werk that caftan!) and sultry affect—and you’ve got the makings of a breathtakingly queer performance. While DWTS came under criticism last week for reportedly denying the choreographer’s request for full-blown same-sex dancing in the number, “Boys Like You” still managed to be plenty subversive. Instead of presenting male same-sex desire as a special case, the show put it on equal footing with opposite-sex lust—and, perhaps even better, held up men to the same kind of erotic gaze that women endure constantly in pop culture whether they want it or not. Good on DWTS for trusting their audience to handle a truly queer presentation, and a huge congrats to Who Is Fancy for the premiere. He earned at least one new fan last night, and I suspect I’m not the only one.
Jessica Jones’ Lesbian Divorce Storyline Is Fabulous, Frustrating
Netflix’s new series Jessica Jones has many things going for it: Krysten Ritter is electrifying as a cynical, booze-soaked sexual-assault survivor with superstrength and a devastating sense of humor. David Tennant is absolutely creep-tastic as a psychopath who can compel people to do his bidding, no matter how bizarre his instructions. It’s a serious, nuanced look at PTSD, female friendship, and the essential weirdness of the “caring professions,” which so often seem to involve damaged people meddling in the lives of total strangers. It also represents Marvel’s first look at lesbian divorce.
The lesbians involved are Jeri Hogarth (Carrie-Anne Moss)—a bad-bitch defense attorney who is so dour and focused on her work we’re told she was on the phone with clients all through her honeymoon—and Wendy Ross-Hogarth (Robin Weigert), a physician who put her wife through law school, then used the income from her law practice to subsidize her work in low-income clinics. Their parting is far from amicable. Hogarth has fallen for her secretary, the lovely Pam (Susie Abromeit), whose entire wardrobe consists of cleavage-revealing wrap dresses. It’s a story as old as capitalism—the more career-focused partner in a marriage trades in the old wife when a younger, more worshipful model comes along—but now everyone in the triangle is female.
National Organization for Marriage Violates Federal Law, Refuses to Release Tax Forms
The National Organization for Marriage was created for one reason: to prevent gay and bisexual Americans from marrying the person they love. It failed. But even before NOM’s catastrophic defeat at the Supreme Court, the organization was collapsing into debt; its tax filings for 2013 revealed a 50 percent drop in earnings and a donor exodus. Given that sharp decline, many journalists and LGBTQ groups were eager to see NOM’s 2014 tax filings, which the group was required to release by Nov. 16.
But instead of complying with federal law and releasing its tax information, NOM has decided to—well, just blatantly violate federal law, I guess. The organization refused to release its Form 990s on Nov. 16. On Nov. 17, a Human Rights Campaign employee visited NOM’s office and knocked on the door, but nobody answered. She placed a written request for the forms, then called later in the afternoon—but again, no one answered. NOM ignored another call on Nov. 19 and another office visit on Nov. 20. Unless the organization has quietly disbanded, it would appear NOM is intentionally neglecting to comply with federal law.
Academy to Consider Trans Tangerine Actresses in Their Proper Gender Category
If you missed Tangerine when it first appeared over the summer, now’s a good time to catch up: The film—director Sean Baker’s sensitive, honest, and often funny look at the lives of a pair of transgender prostitutes over the course of a particularly eventful L.A. Christmas Eve—is sure to be the subject of much discussion this Oscar campaign season. With the support of producers Mark and Jay Duplass and distributor Magnolia Pictures, Tangerine’s trans stars are being advanced as candidates for the best actress and best supporting actress awards. This is a big deal—according to Variety, “It’s the first time a movie distributor has ever backed an awards season push for a transgender actress in Hollywood history.”
That the Duplass brothers and Magnolia are throwing their weight behind a nomination is itself an encouraging—and welcome, considering the performances in question—development. Kitana Kiki Rodriguez (up for the best actress category) and Mya Taylor (best supporting actress) are both new to feature filmmaking; and yet their acting in Tangerine (in front of an iPhone 5s, no less) is deeply compelling, organically modulating from girlfriend comedy to stark portrait of life on the margins with style and verve. But more important, while cis-playing-trans performances have been nominated for the Academy Award before, this push marks the first time actual trans actresses will be seriously considered.
One More Problem Faced by Transgender New Yorkers: Food Insecurity
The last year has seen some of the most hopeful transgender policy developments ever to come out of New York state. At the end of 2014, the state ended the practice of transgender exclusions—language barring coverage of transgender health care needs—in private health insurance. In March, the state lifted its ban on provision of transition-related care under Medicaid. And just last month, Gov. Andrew Cuomo announced that he would use the regulatory process to provide long-sought discrimination protections for transgender people.
Of course, policy advances don’t necessarily mean the situation on the ground is good. There have been transgender policy advances across the country, and yet this has been a year where more than 20 trans women were murdered across the United States. Here in the Empire State, a new report outlines a plethora of unsettling statistics about the economic conditions of transgender New Yorkers. To wit: More than half of the study’s transgender respondents—all residents of New York state—reported being food insecure.
Five Things Trans People Teach Us All About Ourselves
Transgender Day of Remembrance, marked this year on Nov. 20, is a somber day of reflection on the lives we’ve lost to hate and ignorance. It’s also a day of heightened visibility of trans lives and experiences more generally. This year in particular offers up a strange paradox—we’ve seen a heightened number of murders of trans women of color in particular, while also enjoying greater mainstream exposure about what it means to be transgender from public figures like Caitlyn Jenner and Jazz Jennings and shows like Transparent.
Weird contradictions played out politically this year in trans rights as well, with places like Houston voting to repeal civil rights protections for a broad swath of people after conservative forces exploited ignorance around trans bathroom panic, while states like New York and Illinois extended protections for trans people and acknowledged the need for trans students to use facilities that align with their identities.
While trans people may be targets for murder and mockery and be used as pawns for misguided and perilous policymaking, the last thing they are is victims. History will mark that trans people were the pioneers for showing cisgender people the reality of our own diverse lives and identities.
Ask a Homo: Am I Homophobic to Think Gay Sex Is Disgusting?
Welcome back to Ask a Homo, a judgment-free zone where the queers of Outward answer questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, and other conundrums. Today our correspondent wonders if it’s homophobic to be turned off by gay sex.
Sorry, Cate Blanchett, Gays Really Do Need to Shout Their Sexuality From the Rafters
I admit, in May, when a Variety cover story suggested that the gorgeous and brilliant actress Cate Blanchett might harbor same-sex desires, I was as aflame as any other red-blooded American dyke.
Imagine my disappointment when, at the Cannes Film Festival a few days later, she claimed that the reporter had misrepresented their conversation. In fact, she’s not had sexual relations with women. That revelation wasn't as surprising, though, as the contempt she seemed to express toward gays who, in her view, make their sexualities too public and central to their identities.