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Mad Men, Season 3

Week 12: The Grownups

Posted Monday, Nov. 2, 2009, at 11:40 AM ET

Still from Mad Men. Click image to expand.OK, Swansburg, time to settle accounts. Any chance you can bring that old-fashioned to my office? I'm not one for lunch counters, and like Peggy Olson, I prefer to drink at my desk.

One of the many sly jokes embedded in this ostensibly tragic episode was the suggestion that the hallowed American tradition of recounting where you were when you found out Kennedy had been shot began mere hours after the shooting. "I got a call from Leona, this girl I used to work with at the phone company," one of Margaret's wedding guests says. "My friend Francine called me," Betty replies.

What, pray tell, would Peggy—"Pee Wee, sweetheart"—have volunteered? There's so much to chew on here, I don't know where to start. I love Peggy's furtive, girlish smile when Duck waves off her excuse about lunch with Kurt and Smitty, saying, "They're a couple of homos. Tell them you have plans. Come on, creative, be creative." Earlier in the episode we learned from Peggy's long-absent roommate, Karen, that Duck has been hanging around the apartment. (Karen doesn't like the smell of his aftershave in the morning.) But if Duck and Peggy are nooning it on the regular, why does Duck unplug the TV set when she arrives? Granted, he's sexually ravenous, resorting, in his ardor, to an offer Peggy couldn't refuse. (And really, could you say no to a Monte-Cristo sandwich?) But before yanking the cord, Duck has heard the initial report about the president being wounded in an attempt on his life. Is Duck a sex addict? Or just a Republican? Perhaps he simply excels at what was occasionally described, during the Clinton years, as "compartmentalization."

Either way, I love Duck's reply after Peggy asks if he gave her a hickey. "I don't think so."

Before we leave Duck Phillips, I must appeal for assistance to the Fray, and especially to any Fraysters who watch Mad Men on big high-resolution screens. (My TV is maybe a generation or two more advanced than the Drapers'.) Duck has a tattoo on his shoulder. Could any of you make out what it is?

Like you, John, I found the use of televisions everywhere—in living rooms, in the office, in the kitchen off the ballroom—haunting and extremely effective. Likewise the moment when all the telephones begin to ring at Sterling Cooper, rising in an ominous chorus, like so many church bells, the first sign, for Don Draper, that tragedy has struck.

Poor Margaret. As if the indignity of getting advice from Jane ("Dress sexy") wasn't enough, her father has to commandeer the mic at her sparsely attended nuptials and prevail upon his guests to "have the prime rib and the filet of sole." I've relished these glimpses into the Sterling family in recent weeks and cackled as Mona snapped at her daughter, suggesting she turn the (new, blue) earrings Jane gave her "into a tea service or something." Roger's not the only sharp-tongued Sterling, it seems.

The main sour note in the episode was Henry Francis. When Betty exits the ladies' room, the framing of Don and Henry as Jackie-or-Marilyn was cartoonishly on-the-nose. Betty's choice couldn't have been more obvious if Kinsey drew it. And I share your doubts, John, about whether Henry's affections for Betty could possibly be meaningful, given the fact that they hardly know each other. In that brief late-night exchange between Roger and Joan on the telephone, it seemed clear to me that we were witnessing genuine love—messy and repressed, perhaps, but the real thing. By contrast, Henry and Betty have no such perceptible spark. And while it's certainly nice of Henry to say that he will make Betty happy, at the moment, at least, we're going to have to take his word for it.

Oddly enough, I found myself thinking once again last night that the most stable, healthy marriage in Mad Men is Pete and Trudy's. Now that Cosgrove is senior something of something accounts and Pete is just account something, it seems that Campbell is not long for Sterling Coop. When he initially says he's going to telephone Duck, Trudy objects. But by the end of the episode, as Pete mourns Kennedy (in a turtleneck clearly borrowed from either Kurt or Smitty), Trudy changes her tone, telling him to start gathering his clients. Personnel changes are afoot, and as long as Pete and possibly Peggy are leaving the building, I'm just hoping Don's search for a new art director doesn't exclude a certain ex-employee of Mediterranean extraction and sartorial flair.

From the opening scene, in which Pete whines about his hot cocoa, this episode was preoccupied with parents and children. (Weiner tends to telegraph his themes in the episode titles, to a point where I often prefer not to know them. This week was "The Grown-Ups.") In the past, Bobby and Sally have witnessed traumatic events they are too young to understand—Grandpa Gene's death, the immolation of Thích Quảng Đức, the dissolution of their parents' marriage. With Kennedy's death, as with these other traumas, they have been largely on their own, forced to parse the violent mysteries of the grown-up world with minimal guidance from the grown-ups themselves. This time around, even Carla, who usually tends to the kids when Betty blows them off, turns her back on Sally and Bobby when she hears the news, looking to heaven for a moment, then joining Betty on the sofa and lighting a cigarette.

Don does a little better, reprimanding Betty for allowing the kids to watch. Then he tries to comfort his children with the kind of reassuring lie that we all want our parents to tell us. "Everything's going to be OK," he says.

But when Don and Betty dance at the wedding, and Don says the same thing to Betty—"Everything's going to be fine"—she doesn't believe him.

"How do you know that?" Betty asks. It's a scary moment, capturing as it does the larger historical instant when the innocence of the 1950s and early '60s died. Betty has always been a child herself, more or less prepared to take it on faith that everything will, indeed, come out fine. But this time, she's not buying what Don has to sell. And neither, really, is he. In answer, Don can only kiss her, and say simply, "We'll see."

Hang in there, Red.

Patrick

Week 12: The Grownups

Posted Monday, Nov. 2, 2009, at 11:40 AM ET
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Patrick Radden Keefe is the author of The Snakehead: An Epic Tale of the Chinatown Underworld and the American Dream, which has just been published. John Swansburg is Slate's culture editor. You can e-mail him at and follow him at www.twitter.com/swansburg. Julia Turner is Slate's deputy editor. You can e-mail her at or follow her on Twitter at http://twitter.com/juliaturner.
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Series creator Matthew Weiner has stated he leaves nothing for future seasons and puts everything out there each season, like its the last, and this episode could almost double as a series finale. I think when Mad Men eventually ends its run, there will be discussion whether this episode was the proper series finale and should have called it quits right here, or will Weiner have new and interesting places to take us in season 4?

-- guyroy
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"And the way that they saw themselves is gone." Julia, I think this pretty clearly refers to Peggy having her child and giving it away. Until Peggy told Pete about the baby, Don was only person on the show outside of her family and priest that knew her secret. Don was the one that visited Peggy in the hospital after she gave birth and had been out of work for a while.

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Who's in charge, Betty or Henry? Something that surprised me was the amount of involvement Henry had in Betty's divorce advice. Does it ring true for the period that Henry went to the lawyer with Betty and apparently also knew the lawyer and may have selected the lawyer for Betty? And, when Betty told Don that she would be consulting with a divorce attorney and Don should too, was she simply parroting Henry's words?

Certainly since Henry's divorced he knows the routine and I can understand him giving Betty the benefit of his experience. Last episode Henry was willing to give Betty the time she needed and he would wait. Now, things are fast-tracked to Reno. I'm sure that it's been hard for Betty to continue to live in the same house with Don who continues to deny Betty's feelings. But, seeing Betty sitting in the lawyer's office on the sofa with Henry, reminded me of Betty sitting on the sofa with Glen last season. Then, when Don confronts Betty about Henry, they seem to be having their first real fight.

Anyway, I wonder if Betty/Henry are the 'lasting love' mentioned in the Roy Orbison song at the end.

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I think season 4 will include a serious health issue for Don-perhaps lung cancer. Note the cough at the beginning of the last episode. Also the brief scene when Sterling's dog food heiress old flame states that her first husband died of lung cancer, there is a brief cut to Don lighting up another. Thoughts while I write an order for Don to get a screening cat scan.

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