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Spin the BottleMark Foley's 10-step rehab program.

By William Saletan
Updated Thursday, Oct. 5, 2006, at 12:45 AM ET

Bad news: You've been caught (a) taking bribes from Jack Abramoff, (b) telling a police officer that "the Jews are responsible for all the wars in the world," or (c) exchanging naked fantasies with teenage boys. What do you do? If you're Mel Gibson, Rep. Bob Ney (R-Ohio), or former Rep. Mark Foley (R-Fla.), you blame alcohol. Here's their 10-step program for rehabilitating your career.

1. Take "full responsibility." This is crucial. Only by accepting blame in principle can you shift it in practice. After being caught in the Abramoff scandal, for example, Ney issued a statement that pledged "to accept responsibility for what I have done" and then segued to his "dependence on alcohol." Gibson's statement, released after his anti-Semitic rant during a drunk-driving arrest, opened with the excuse and then segued to responsibility: "After drinking alcohol on Thursday night, I did a number of things that were very wrong."

Foley's statement takes the Gibsonian approach. "Painfully, the events that led to my resignation have crystallized recognition of my longstanding significant alcohol and emotional difficulties," he begins in the third-person passive. After two more paragraphs on his "disease" and his "treatment for alcoholism," he vows to "accept full responsibility for the harm I have caused." In press conferences, Foley's spokesman, David Roth, smoothly blends the rhetoric of responsibility with the chemistry of excuses: "Based upon the experts that I have spoken to, the combination of alcohol [and] mental illness can result in inappropriate conduct, which Mark Foley has fully accepted responsibility for."

2. Confess that the disease is bigger than you. This is no time for arrogance. Only by expressing humility and weakness can you feign inability to control your behavior. Thus, Gibson puzzled over slurs that were "blurted out in a moment of insanity," seemingly against his will. Likewise, Roth portrays Foley as a casualty of a natural disaster: "The recent tragic events that led to Mark's recognition that he is ill and that his alcoholism and mental illness are beyond his control reached a crisis point on Friday."

3. Depict the drunken you as a stranger. According to the sober Gibson, the plastered Gibson "said things that I do not believe to be true." In a second statement, Gibson added with pained innocence, "I am in the process of understanding where those vicious words came from during that drunken display." Similarly, Roth suggests there are two Foleys: "The communications that he made while under the influence of alcohol … are not the product of the Mark Foley—the sober and healthy Mark Foley—but are the product of someone under the influence of alcohol and suffering from mental illness."

4. Call yourself an alcoholic. Foley adopts the label directly: "I am an alcoholic." This is vital, because when you're also a crook, anti-Semite, or pervert, "alcoholic" sounds so much nicer. Millions of people are alcoholic or love someone who's alcoholic. Embrace the label, and they'll embrace you. Roth adds a nifty twist to this maneuver, calling Foley "a closet drinker." Everyone knows Foley had a closet. The only question is what's in it. Booze is the least shocking answer he can hope to get away with.

5. Duck and recover. It's no fun explaining why you sold your vote for casino chips or asked an underage lacrosse player what he does in the nude. Your best move is to disappear into the nearest substance-abuse clinic, where you can "recover" until the media pack has moved on. That's what Ney did when reporters demanded to know whether he'd resign. "He is taking things one step at a time," Ney's lawyer told them. Roth brushes aside questions about Foley's fate the same way. "Those issues will be dealt with when Mark's treatment hopefully results in his recovery," he says. "He's in treatment" sounds so much better than "no comment."

6. Ask for help. If you're the villain in the present drama, replace it with a new drama in which you're the victim. "I am asking the Jewish community, whom I have personally offended, to help me on my journey through recovery," said Gibson. "Over the years, I have worked to help others, but now I am the one that needs help," said Ney. Now Foley needs help, too. "The focus of our work," says Roth, "has been exclusively dedicated to getting Mark the help that he acknowledged that he needed and could not deal with on his own."

7. Medicate promptly. No one will believe you if you promise to stop hating Jews, taking bribes, or flirting with boys tomorrow. Reform takes time. But recast your character problem as a substance problem and you can "treat" it right away. "I have begun an ongoing program of recovery," Gibson announced four days after his slurs became public. It worked: By the time he came up for sentencing, the judge gave him credit for having "'already engaged in an extensive amount of rehabilitation." Ney took the same approach, embracing "professional help" for his "dependency." Foley, moving even more quickly, has announced his "immediate treatment for alcoholism and related behavioral problems." The story of what you did may get worse, but the story of your "treatment" always gets better.

8. Take credit for fighting your addiction. While blaming your sins on factors beyond your control, don't hesitate to frame your flight to the clinic as an act of courage and free will. "I have battled the disease of alcoholism for all of my adult life," Gibson declared. Foley, too, is a hero. "Mark voluntarily entered a substance abuse and mental health facility," says Roth. "This decision was Mark's … This was a life decision, not a tactical one made by others."

9. Compartmentalize the problem. While using alcohol to explain away everything from golf junkets to selling commercial endorsements in the Congressional Record, never admit to drinking on the job. Remember, alcohol pervaded your life but not your schedule. Despite amorous instant messages in which Foley tells a young man "we are still voting" and "I better go vote," Roth insists Foley "was never under the influence of alcohol while he was a public servant." Instead, Foley drank only "alone" and "at night."

10. Add excuses as needed. Two days after declaring himself an alcoholic, Foley announced that as a boy, he had been molested by a clergyman. "Mark does not blame the trauma he sustained as a young adolescent for his totally inappropriate emails and IM's. He continues to offer no excuse whatsoever for his conduct," said Roth. But the spokesman continued: "As is so often the case with victims of abuse, Mark advises that he kept his shame to himself for almost 40 years." Who needs a scapegoat when you've got a "trauma" that recasts you as the "victim"? The most powerful excuses are those you never call by that name.

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Remarks from the Fray:

My husband got drunk and beat the crap out of me. I left him. He phoned me and said he had joined AA so I should come back to him. I told him he was out of his mind. Then his AA sponsor phoned me and shamed me. He said my husband was "recovering" so I should "support" him. I said that, in my view, the alcohol did not make him abusive, the alcohol just made him freely abusive. You are what you are and, sadly, there are things that we do in life that cannot be excused, undone or washed away with tears of repentance.

Perhaps AA is just another form of the confession box. You go in, you confess, you walk away feeling cleansed. Sorry. I just don't buy it.

--Ex-Pat

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Mark Foley's assertion that he is an abused gay alcoholic demeans and dishonors all of the intense and painful personal work done by the many people who have been abused, come out of the closet, and sweated through rehab. The ignorant destructiveness of Foley's pity party when his Entitlement King Baby came out of its own closet is as bad as his idiotic email behaviour.

--Neith

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Okay. My staff has pored over those instant messages like a fine-toothed comb through the coat of a flea-infested dog. And we came up with pretty much the same results as the comb-dog thingie probably would.

We can't be sure of much. That boy may or may not have been 16 years old. Mark Foley may or may not have been a gay man of the homosexual persuasion. Using a towel may or may not have been preferable to, say, a sock, or an old t-shirt.

But of one thing we can be absolutely positively certain: It wasn't Mark Foley's fault.

That boy was asking for it

He was on his school's La Crosse team, for goodness sakes. And everybody knows that when La Crosse players aren't busy fondling each other in the shower, they're out raping black strippers in the bathroom. Come on, folks. I'm really starting to feel like I'm repeating myself. Again. […]

Mark Foley was drunk and curious

And, therefore, unaware of what he was doing. I mean, come on: How many of us in college didn't do a little "experimenting" that, if it got out, would be pretty dang embarrassing? Huh? Oh. […]

Mark Foley may or may not be a closeted gay Republican of the homosexual persuasion

Don't you think he's got it bad enough already? Let's cut "Mary" some slack. Which means…

Mark Foley, if he's gay, may be, therefore, preoccupied with sex

Seriously. I heard a man say it on my radio last night whilst listening to the NPR. He said that gays are preoccupied with sex. Which got me to thinking, Uh-oh, I think I'm gay. Because I'm preoccupied with sex. But I'm preoccupied with sex with women, which might cramp my "alternative lifestyle" when I'm out being all gay and stuff. Rats! Not good.

Mark Foley was trying to save that boy's life

Scientific studies have shown that daily masturbation lowers one's chances of contracting prostate cancer later on in life. Mark Foley's intensive, extensive discussions online about masturbation with alleged 16 year-old boys is nothing short of prophylactic medicine of the highest order, an excellent resume-builder for protecting the youth of America, and ranks right up there with Dr. Frist's keen eye when he diagnosed Terri Schiavo as being exceptionally cogent and abundantly human using nothing more than a video tape of her drooling on herself. Physician: Heed thyself! (Or not.) […]

So, to sum up: It wasn't Mark Foley's fault because of La Crosse, baseball, that little IZOD alligator, Stone Phillips, Protestantism, Log Cabin Republicans, NPR, rubbers, voting records, and "tossing the salad".

Obviously.

--switters

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