Beth writes: "I knew enough about the donor from Dora Vaux not to be threatened by him. I knew that he was happily married for many years, but had no children of his own, despite having wanted them. I … was disarmed by his warmth and openness. We received a letter from him in 1995 and he referred to himself and his wife as 'Honorary Grandparents' and he just felt like family. If the donor was a young unmarried college student or a man with children of his own, we might not have sought out contact, and I certainly would never have pursued him if I thought he wasn't willing to make contact. The circumstances in this particular case make contact a pleasant reality."