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Kathryn Harrison and D.T. Max
The Powers of the Obituary
Posted Wednesday, July 18, 2001, at 11:41 AM ETOr does death insist that we give ourselves to the novel, or at least to narrative, to making sense of what is otherwise meaningless: chaotic, random experience? I'm obsessed with death but actually much more afraid of Meaninglessness, which threatens from every nook and corner and even--or especially--from the wide open spaces. Maybe that's why we're avoiding the Midwest, ricocheting from coast to coast because at least they are defined by the margins of geography, the necessary end of Nonsense, the death of land. Please note that the AbioCor device is issuing its 1.5 million-plus perfect ticks or beats or pumps or whatever far from the threatening tide.
I read the paper like an old woman, i.e., the obituaries first, not out of morbid curiosity but because I like those summary stories, that weird art form, the sheer conceit of summing up a life--at last, here it all is: prologue to epilogue. There was an amusing article (last week, I think, in the New York Times) about famous people being interviewed for their obituaries: The journalist comes knocking, heralding the grim reaper. Imagine the simultaneous honor and horror of being held important enough that one's obit must be ready in advance, deemed decrepit enough to make such an interview advisable.
I wonder if Katharine Graham received any such attentions during her last year, in her early 80s and clearly still a force, wielding power over journalism, enough that the task of unpacking her would be daunting to that person with the tiny microphone, the pad and pencil. Washington must be a somber city today, perhaps even introspective, if such a thing as introspection occurs in our nation's capital. One of the powers of the obituary is the invitation to compare oneself to the dead, to add up the private pieces prematurely, a little like standing at the cash register and asking for a subtotal just to see, will there be enough to pay for everything? If someone else were to read my little story, start to finish, would I add up to the sum of my parts?
I think Kay Graham would have loved her story. It seems the measure of a good life: to embrace the pieces, all of them, to acknowledge how entwined are the blessings and the curses.
I write novels because they are the only means I know toward sanity, because the act of writing is an act of ordering experience into narrative, stories that make sense, that deny meaninglessness. It's both whistling in the dark and an act of defiance.
And I never think about the small and smaller place of books in the world. In my own life, they are the cornerstone.
The Powers of the Obituary
Posted Wednesday, July 18, 2001, at 11:41 AM ETReader Comments From The Fray:
[Notes from the Fray Editor: Richard Riley lives in flyover country and has only ever come across 'Jewess' in the book Ivanhoe. A-Z says Jewish practices are matrilineal, not matriarchal. Sean Fitzgerald doesn't know what the deal would be if the intern was black, and asks for enlightenment. Whither the "Breakfast Table"? Regular readers make their comments in this thread, and have suggestions for future participants.]
First of all, it isn't about the supposedly unique attractiveness of Jewish women. Both Clinton and Condit had relationships with other women who were not Jewish. The attractive quality was not Jewishess, but availability. These guys, especially Clinton, had limited opportunities to meet available women. So how are Jewish interns available to Democratic politicians? Two American cultural traditions play a role:
First, internships go to families connected to campaign contributors, and American Jews are disproportionately represented among large contributors to the Democratic party. No surprise that many Democratic interns come from Jewish families.
Second, there is an American Jewish tradition of supporting adult children through more years of education (including unpaid internships) than is standard in other U.S. cultural communities, even at comparable parental income levels. Some connect it to the yeshiva tradition in Eastern Europe, where supporting a scholar who never holds down a job was a matter of pride for an extended family. Why this tradition stuck over the generations even among the nonreligious is an interesting question. Both Chandra and Monica were still apparently supported by their parents well into their mid-twenties.
Put these factors together, and a high proportion of young democratic DC interns are Jewish. It's not a surprise that some of the women get involved with the bosses.
This pop sociology comes from the inside, as I was young and Jewish in the DC intern world myself once, and later a parentally-supported Jewish law student.
--Arthur Stock
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As I see it this "Breakfast Table" manages to give any Frayster a choice of ticking time bombs to try and disarm (or throw at other Fraysters). First, a discussion of the sexual mores of Jewish women. While I have identified a Jewish conspiracy to take all my money and life-force, the conspiracy appears limited to my wife and children. Moreover, a first person comment on whether I think Jewish women are easy for Presbyterian men, would leave me in a deeply compromised position if my wife read it. So I will boldly leave this issue alone. The raising of the second issue reminds me of a little boy who has forgotten what happens when you hit a hornets nest with a stick. So I will simply confine myself to saying that Republicans are low-life fascists who don't deserve to ever hold office in a free country.
--Neill Hamilton
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It doesn't help anybody to understand these situations by pretending that the women involved were empty little china dolls broken by big, bad men. I don't know what the deal is with Levy and Condit, but anyone who read that turgid Starr report saw that Monica Lewinsky was a participant, not a puppet, in what happened.
There are women who are attracted to power, and there are women who play on the shortcomings of powerful men for their own reasons. To suppose otherwise is to deny them the very three-dimensional existence that women's empowerment is supposed to provide. To suppose otherwise is to do a shocking disservice to the thousands of young women who cycle through Washington, DC, every year, working hard and getting ahead and never once thinking that it would be all right to sleep with a married man who insisted you not bring ID on your "dates."
--Shark
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