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William F. Buckley Jr. and Michael Kinsley
The Supreme American Vice
Posted Monday, March 26, 2001, at 5:18 PM ETMichael Kinsley reminisced on the late William F. Buckley during an online chat on Feb. 28, 2008. Read the transcript.
Dear Michael,
But you don't really want to talk about the subject, and though it isn't a King Charles' head problem with me, I was a little surprised at your brushing it to one side and asking instead what my views were on nuclear proliferation. ... OK, you'll have them and anything else you want from me, but let me linger for a moment on the subject I raised. Harold Nicholson wrote a nice book--what, 50 years ago?--called Good Behavior (Good Behaviour, of course) in which he touched down on different civilizations and what they individually held indispensable to their own culture.
I wish I could remember the details, recalling only that stiff-upper-lipness was the British sine qua non. I don't remember that he brought up a distinctively American cultural signature, though I do remember a discussion on the general question that asked, if to be thought unmanly is the supreme vice in England, what is it in America? ... If you want to know, I'll pass our finding along in the next letter.*
But I want to say this much, that there is a matter of sensibilities here that merits more than the dismissal you attempt. You are saying that you are a part of a culture in which everybody is Bill and Mike and that you are quite happy with it.
But shouldn't you be unhappy that there are those who are not happy with it? Should I train myself not to wince when a total stranger from CompUSA asks, what can I do for you today, William? My roots are only half Connecticut Yankee. My mother and father were resolute Southerners, and we lived in the winter months in Camden, S.C., where they are buried. There was in Camden, when we settled there, a reigning presence, a 65-year-old widow whose approval everyone sought both because she was arbiter elegentiae in Camden and because she was the soul of high standards and kindness. Age 13, I heard her recount to my mother that a colored lady had put in for a job to replace the retiring cook/maid/laundress and when asked her name, gave it as "Mrs. Whittaker." This brought laughter from Camden's first lady, who said simply that of course she would not hire a servant who gave her name as "Mrs." anything.
It took me a while to turn around on that because I lived in a Jim Crow world, and it was some years before the implications of the episode marshalled my thoughts. I remember reading of the amusement Alan Tate (I think it was) expressed to a colleague on receipt of a letter signed "Faulkner." "I never heard of anybody signing a letter using just the surname except a British lord." Well, that doesn't mean, of course, that British lords shouldn't maintain the habit, or that--if it pleases them--one shouldn't address them as Lord. The American contribution here, in the sense of the democratization of manners, is the universal "Mr." Imagine Thomas Jefferson consenting to anything else other than Mr. Jefferson?
It is a movement in either of the two directions that we should watch out for. At dinner in Ames, Iowa, I asked the Hoover librarian whether the former president was regularly referred to as Mr. President (I knew him a little, and he was Mr. Hoover, or Chief, in my own experience). Vexed by the question, the librarian/historian looked up the first 150 letters addressed to Hoover after he left the White House and found equal parts of Dear Mr. President, Dear Mr. Hoover, and Dear Sir. But contemporary ex-presidents would kill before acquiescing in anything other than Mr. President. We can both worry about any tendency to overdo honorifics, but you seem to leave me alone to worry about the galloping reluctance to speak of Mr. Kinsley or Mr. Buckley. OK, I'll go it without you.
You wanted to hear about public financing? And the sneaky brotherhood of power? And Rich Lowry for mayor of New York? Ah, but you have overextended your hospitality, and I, the exploitation of it.
Warmest,
Bill
* That's coy. The supreme American vice is: to be thought humorless.
The Supreme American Vice
Posted Monday, March 26, 2001, at 5:18 PM ETReader Comments from The Fray:
[Thursday notes from the Fray Editor: Bruce F. Cole appears to be addressing here some amalgamated version of the two distinguished Breakfast Tablers, but we never let that sort of consideration stand in the way of a cheap shot in The Fray. A couple of readers pointed out that the Girard bequest to which Mr. Buckley refers (Wednesday) was made in the 1840s; the Supreme Court struck down its whites-only provision in 1968. Tom R (yes, again) writes about diversity with the memorable sentence "Working for the Air Force you get all sorts of opportunities to find out how to discriminate against other people, sexually prey on their weaknesses, steal the government's money, and solicit bribes from government contractors." There appears to be some attempt to link this description with Slate, but best left hidden we think.]
Boycotts are for sissies. The Yale students planning a boycott of Clinton's appearance are only doing it to draw attention to themselves. They deserve no such attention. Boycotting a speech doesn't do anything. It doesn't even say anything. It just sort of suggests that people who do not want to do or even say anything want very badly to look as if they are.
Do these Yalies disapprove of Sen. Clinton, or what she represents? Fine; let them show in their post-Yale lives that they stand for something better. That would be a statement worth making. Right now it doesn't sound as if they have anything to say.
--Joseph Britt
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[Wednesday notes from the Fray Editor: The Fray is divided into two camps: those who think modes of address a dull topic, and those who cannot pile their perceptions in fast enough. There is also a meta-level of discussion as to what makes a good "Breakfast Table" and a good Fray--see for example Charmy, here. Alexander Chancellor raises an excellent point about possible national differences in formality.
Those who could tear themselves away from names wanted to discuss affirmative action here, and here ("I'm confused, they're both wrong"). Tom R, in addition to the contribution below, revealed that he once received a memorably specific grant for being an "exceptional married engineering student who planned to attend grad school". We're sure you deserved it Tom. More good stories here and here.
Publius wants the Fray Editor to ask Mr Buckley a question, but Zeitguy knows why she can't: "We talk to Kinsley, Kinsley talks to God, God sends email to Buckley..."]
Being an old friend of Michael or Mike Kinsley, yet still undecided whether to call him Mike or Michael, I am particularly interested in this correspondence. I tend towards calling him Michael, not because I object to "Mike" in any way at all but because I am British and somehow assume that "Michael" is what would be expected of me by Americans, even though Britain long ago became a nation of "Mikes" rather than "Michaels". When I was editor of the Spectator in the 1970s, I published a couple of rather dull articles by a young lawyer under the name Anthony Blair. He is now Prime Minister and would be appalled if anyone called him anything other than Tony.
--Alexander Chancellor
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If, as Mr. Kinsley suggests, Mr. Buckley must defend his preference for civilized formality on grounds other than tradition, it seems to me Kinsley should argue for informality on grounds other than its current vogue among Internet users. They've also made all-lowercase the standard for email, but we're in no rush to adopt that as general usage.
--Scott Dickensheets
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Harvard may be privately controlled but it's larded with government funding in both its research programs and in government subsidies for basic education programs. I'd only accept Mr. Buckley's concept about affirmative action being acceptable for the private sector if in fact Harvard (or any other private college) could set up some sort of 'Chinese Wall' to segregate the publicly funded segments from the privately funded segments. The latter then could come under the Buckley programmatic blessing.
--Tom R
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[Monday notes from the Fray Editor: It would be quite an achievement to be considered the biggest troublemaker on the Fray, but we may have a contender: step forward Neill Hamilton. We are naturally not going to publish the offending post, in which he tries to turn Breakfast Tablers against each other, but we will tell you that he has tried this in the past (here and here) and made a notably bad taste post which required a special reader warning. Amber, below, is doing her best, too.]
Two thoughts for Mr. Buckley: The nicknamed figures of stature you mention are Southerners. For reasons I've never quite plumbed, given names are normally shortened there (I accepted the same sort of abbreviation during several years in the South), regardless of the formality of the situation. Yankees adopt nicknames less consistently.
As a New Yorker somewhere in age between you and Michael Kinsley, I can't escape thinking of you as Mr. Buckley and him as Michael. Age evidently has something to do with it. In print, his bylines are always Michael, but he's a leader in an industry largely run by and for an even younger generation, one far less formal than either of you.
The more interesting question might be if it matters at all in this era. A great many Southerners command respect whatever they're called.
--Ellie C
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What do your parents call you when you are in trouble? By your nickname or by your full name? Seems to me William, and poor Christopher, were awful children who did nothing but get into mischief and trouble. They are just used to being called by their full names.
--Amber
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