What Is Aggression?
By Margaret Crastnopol
Posted Tuesday, March 20, 2001, at 11:23 AM ETWho are these people?
Dear Glen, Phil, and Joel,
This episode had a visceral effect like classical Greek drama. That rape depiction was extraordinarily, and for the viewer, traumatically true-to-life, both as it was enacted and in its ripple effect on Jennifer, her family, and indirectly, her patient. Also--I had just settled into experiencing Tony as the kind of dyed-in-the-wool sociopath I used to encounter when working in a forensic clinic, when all of a sudden he refound his humanity--in his genuine, tender concern for his therapist's "car accident." (Is this a refinding of his unsullied temperament--a return to the "innocence" he presumably possessed prior to the discovery of his father's brutal side--or is it the humanizing effect of a profoundly impactful and intimate therapeutic relationship?).
The writers are playing with a number of themes here--first, what is aggression, and where does it come from? Is it seemingly inborn (as in some of those gratuitously brutal guys Tony collects), is it a response to a lawless and unjust environment, is it the response to a profound insult to one's sense of self or identity? In the writers' view, it's all of the above! And no one is exempt, not even your therapist. And that's a second theme--we are all "more simply human than otherwise," as one very influential psychoanalyst, Harry Stack Sullivan, put it--in other words, patient and therapist are fundamentally more the same than different underneath, which makes it especially critical that the therapist harness her or his passionate loves and hates to make therapeutic use of them on the patient's behalf. We see this also in Jennifer's thus-far successful struggle to contain her own unleashed thirst for revenge, and the longing she has to capitalize on her powerful patient's love of her to have him exact "an eye for an eye" (well, she would have had other body parts in mind). The third theme that grabs me is that depiction of the combination of an erotic bond between patient and therapist and the power differentials between them--quite a one-two punch. What is the effect when a patient has "real life" abilities, resources, and power that the therapist needs but lacks? Yes, there's the possibility of the therapist becoming "corrupted"--that is, using the patient for his/her own benefit--but short of an out-and-out breech of ethics by the therapist, how does this very common situation affect the therapist's ability to treat the patient effectively? I hope the writers will show the subtleties of this more mundane situation rather than settle for a simplistic if sensationalist "corruption" scenario (that is, Jennifer enlisting Tony in her revenge).
And, don't get me started on what I think of Jennifer's pseudo-treatment with that poor-excuse-for-a-senior-therapist.
Peggy
What Is Aggression?
By Margaret Crastnopol
Posted Tuesday, March 20, 2001, at 11:23 AM ETThis spring, Slate will ask Dr. Melfi's real-life counterparts to examine developments on The Sopranos
. Glen O. Gabbard, M.D., is a professor of psychoanalysis at the Menninger Clinic and co-author of Psychiatry and the Cinema. Philip A. Ringstrom, Ph.D., Psy.D., is an analyst at the Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis in Los Angeles and a full-time practitioner. Joel Whitebook, a practicing analyst in New York, is on the faculty of the Columbia Center for Psychoanalytic Training and Research. Margaret Crastnopol, Ph.D., is on the faculty of the Northwest Center for Psychoanalysis and a practicing psychologist/psychoanalyst in Seattle. Click here to comment on Sunday night's episode. Reader Comments From The Fray:
Margaret Crastnopol hit it right on the head: we are being too easy on Melfi (or at least the portrayal of Melfi). Fact is, Tony Soprano is an idiot and she's physically intimidated by him. She's also turned on by him--which is a revolting possibility. Thing is, thousands of women are, in fact, turned on by Tony and his merry band of thugs. Crastnopol's suggestion that the doctor-patient and doctor-doctor power positioning does little to counter stereotypes of weak women being pushed around by angry, stupid men--this is all correct, too. Actually, the whole program is misogynistic and ought not be watched by anyone....yet, I'm strangely attracted to it, bad writing/acting and all. Is it that I'm that desperate for entertainment or is this representative of some deep misogyny within? Doctors, tell me: what drives us (me) to watch this thing, even when I know it's negative TV? There are too many men and women out there watching this and thinking that this is an acceptable way of life. What's wrong with us? A diagnosis, please.
--Phil H.
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To Phil H:
There is nothing wrong with "us." But there is a problem with your formulation of the problem. To enjoy this well-written and well-acted drama, we are not obligated to find that the fictional characters pursue "an acceptable way of life." On the contrary, I would guess that 99.9% of viewers strenuously object to the way Tony puts bread on the Sopranos' table.
We enjoy the bravura plot twists, the odd contrasts, the marvelous characterizations, and the Machiavellian tactics--and the occasionally absurd results of the characters' efforts. The monstrous is combined with the mundane in a striking and amusing way. Consider Tony strangling a mafia traitor as his beloved daughter is interviewed for admission to a genteel New England college.
Millions of people have read and admired Crime and Punishment. Do you suppose they accepted the grotesque reasoning that drove Dostoyevsky's main character? Must we approve of step-patricide to enjoy Hamlet?
Relax and enjoy the series. If you feel the urge to emulate the main characters, call your therapist (or your local sheriff).
--Gary
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On the question of the Mafia don who approved of Tony's therapy: Remember that this was a leader of the Manhattan mob. Probably they are a little more sophisticated than the Jersey crowd. Remember, it was only Junior and Tony's assumption that seeing a shrink was taboo. The New York family was probably way ahead of them.
--Aurora Duane
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(3/15)
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Margaret Crastnopol hit it right on the head: we are being too easy on Melfi (or at least the portrayal of Melfi). Fact is, Tony Soprano is an idiot and she's physically intimidated by him. She's also turned on by him--which is a revolting possibility. Thing is, thousands of women are, in fact, turned on by Tony and his merry band of thugs. Crastnopol's suggestion that the doctor-patient and doctor-doctor power positioning does little to counter stereotypes of weak women being pushed around by angry, stupid men--this is all correct, too. Actually, the whole program is misogynistic and ought not be watched by anyone....yet, I'm strangely attracted to it, bad writing/acting and all. Is it that I'm that desperate for entertainment or is this representative of some deep misogyny within? Doctors, tell me: what drives us (me) to watch this thing, even when I know it's negative TV? There are too many men and women out there watching this and thinking that this is an acceptable way of life. What's wrong with us? A diagnosis, please.
--Phil H.
(To reply, click here.)
To Phil H:
There is nothing wrong with "us." But there is a problem with your formulation of the problem. To enjoy this well-written and well-acted drama, we are not obligated to find that the fictional characters pursue "an acceptable way of life." On the contrary, I would guess that 99.9% of viewers strenuously object to the way Tony puts bread on the Sopranos' table.
We enjoy the bravura plot twists, the odd contrasts, the marvelous characterizations, and the Machiavellian tactics--and the occasionally absurd results of the characters' efforts. The monstrous is combined with the mundane in a striking and amusing way. Consider Tony strangling a mafia traitor as his beloved daughter is interviewed for admission to a genteel New England college.
Millions of people have read and admired Crime and Punishment. Do you suppose they accepted the grotesque reasoning that drove Dostoyevsky's main character? Must we approve of step-patricide to enjoy Hamlet?
Relax and enjoy the series. If you feel the urge to emulate the main characters, call your therapist (or your local sheriff).
--Gary
(To reply, click here.)
On the question of the Mafia don who approved of Tony's therapy: Remember that this was a leader of the Manhattan mob. Probably they are a little more sophisticated than the Jersey crowd. Remember, it was only Junior and Tony's assumption that seeing a shrink was taboo. The New York family was probably way ahead of them.
--Aurora Duane
(To reply, click here.)
(3/15)