Jew vs. Jew
False Dichotomies
Posted Thursday, Aug. 17, 2000, at 2:56 PM ETHey:
So who woulda thunk that a crowd of several thousand (mostly) Christians would be shown on national television screaming the name "Hadassah" over and over again? Maybe this is the promised land after all.
No apologies necessary. I don't mind being made into a parody. I do it to myself quite often. And hey, I understand your frustration with the Jewish handwringers. Fuck the Nazis if they don't like Lieberman. Maybe for once we should make the Nazis scared of us instead of letting us be scared by them. (Man, I think I'm channeling Kahane again.)
You make a great point, about the false dichotomy that I think is built into Jew vs. Jew. You wrote that there is a whole world between Kiryas Joel, the Hasidic shtetl north of New York City, and Woody Allen, the one man-shtetl of Manhattan, and I couldn't agree more.
I used to think the way Freedman thinks--that only the Orthodox model of Jewish life will flourish in America--but then I had kids. You asked me what synagogue we belong too: Adas Israel, the behemoth Conservative shul in Cleveland Park, here in Washington. We're mostly involved in the nursery school, and I'll tell you this: It's jam-packed with Jewish kids whose parents--Jews who married other Jews, in the main--take the responsibility of transmitting Judaism to their kids pretty seriously.
Let me quote one particularly acute criticism of Jew vs. Jew from today's New York Times review (written by a friend of mine, Jonathan Rosen, whose brilliant new book The Talmud and the Internet: A Journey Between Worlds, will be published next month--sorry, but you know how we Jews are always looking out for each other). Jonathan wrote that Freedman has defined Jewish religious life "so narrowly that American Jews are all drafted by his book into conflicts that many may feel touch only peripherally on their religious lives." He's right: I'm happy to see a million Judaisms bloom (except Michael Lerner's), even if it means nasty fights at synagogue board meetings while all these different Judaisms settle into their different sandboxes, to use your term.
You know, all of this has got me thinking about a very difficult question a friend once asked me: Would you rather see your child marry a non-Jew, on the one hand, or a Hasid, on the other? This particular friend of mine is Orthodox (some of my best friends are Orthodox; wait, strike that: some of my best friends used to be Orthodox--Freedman doesn't recognize that large numbers of Orthodox youth actually leave their movement in search of something more stimulating or progressive) and my friend was testing the limits of my tolerance for other types of Jews. Now, I am unabashedly opposed to intermarriage, opposition that is rooted not in prejudice against Christians (did I mention that some of my best friends are Christian?) but in a simple demographic reality; there aren't very many of us left. I wouldn't have hard feelings about Jews who marry-out if there were 100 million of us, but there aren't. That said, I still wouldn't want my child, especially one of my daughters, to marry a Hasid: It's a way of life that is so completely foreign to everything I believe, and so narrow and sexist and superstitious, that I couldn't handle it. Does that mean I'm infected with sinat hinam, the baseless hatred that Freedman laments?
OK, now that I've hung my tuchus out there, it's your turn. Could you answer that question?
Great Rev. Jackson story, by the way. It's great to see that the Democrats are still the party of the people. This has been too much fun.
Jeff
False Dichotomies
Posted Thursday, Aug. 17, 2000, at 2:56 PM ET
This week, a discussion of Jew vs. Jew, Samuel Freedman's examination of escalating tensions among American Jews (click here to buy the book). Jeffrey Goldberg is a regular contributor to Slate and the New York Times Magazine. Hanna Rosin is the religion correspondent for the Washington Post. Reader Comments from The Fray:
[Reaction to Tuesday's entry]
I also feel the sting of the word Jew, but I'm not so thin-skinned as to hold it against the user. It falls into the same category as adjectives-used-as-nouns, like "he's a black" or "she's a gay," though in this case Jew is a noun. People don't like what they see as a rich, deep, everlasting heritage reduced to a single, one-syllable word; they believe the complexity of their people must be reflected in the term used to label their identities. I find this to be wrongheaded and kind of chickenshit. Because Jewish American is far-less evocative--because it's so specific, it reduces a person even more than just plain Jew--I prefer the one syllable; it's more open-ended. Words, especially identity labels, are so much more abstract than more descriptive words anyway; why try and make them say more than they can? Please use Jew and not Jewish-American, Mr. Goldberg, because each of us is capable of more than two adjectives.
--Simon
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I haven't read Freedman's book, but from a couple of reviews I gather there is big news for Jews in the book. the news is that after decades of decline, Orthodox Judaism is making a strong comeback, and that the newly-revitalized Orthodox are in some sense, according to Freedman, winning the battle against the much larger and more loosely organized Reform and Conservative factions.
What I don't know is whether this Orthodox resurgence is strong enough to seriously curtail the decline of Judaism in the United States. I doubt it. Some figures I got from an organization that keeps track of such things indicates that the Jewish population of the U.S. has declined from 3.5% of the population in the 1950s (5 million Jews), to 2.2% in 1990 (5.6 million Jews in a much more populous country), and that most of that population increase is due not to more Jewish births here, but to immigration.
I find the resurgence of Orthodoxy fascinating. the new Orthodox are often young, well-educated people, doctors, lawyers, educators, even college professors. In the old days, Orthodox Jews were generally older and less well educated. A lot of them had trouble speaking English. They were looked down upon by other Jews as hopelessly ignorant and out of date.
More than that I find it fascinating that, after the Holocaust, any Jew could take his/her religion (as opposed to Jewish peoplehood) seriously, much less well-educated people. After centuries of persecution climaxed by the slaughter of the 6 million, how can any Jew take seriously the Bible's notion of a just and merciful God? Where was that God during Auschwitz? Did he take a few years off in Miami Beach? I've been told that Orthodox Jews believe the Holocaust was god's punishment to all Jews for the growing number of non-observant Jews. But how can bright, educated people believe so fervently in a God who would permit the slaughter of helpless old women and little babies, among others?
No, I think, there is no god. but the Jews who invented the Western world's notion of God have been very much a presence and an influence, largely for the good, for more than four thousand years. and I hope they will continue to be for another four thousand years and, I hope, many more.
--samg
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Geez, Louise, why is this e-zine obsessed with Judaism and Jews? It seems nary a week goes by when we aren't treated to navel-gazing by various people about their or their friends' Jewishness, ruminations about it, reflections about it, ad nauseam. This Jew, for one, is tired of it - and I'm affiliated, and take my religion seriously. I wonder what others must think. Please, please, write about the interesting goings-on in the Dominican community in NY. Or the Irish Catholics in the suburbs. Or the growing Bengali community. Or recent immigrants from West Africa. Or those radical Norwegian-Americans who populate Minnesota. Arent' any of those other ethnic or religious groups worth writing about? Or is this all just confirmation that journalists, like most people, are self-centered--lots of Jews on the staff of Slate, so we get lots of articles about their ethnic angst. Sorry, guys, but it's getting really tiresome already.
--Stuart
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To Stuart:
One of the things I enjoy about this e-zine is the fact that sometimes there is a dialogue on Jewish issues in which Jews and non-Jews from different points of view can communicate. Many Jewish sites don't offer the same degree of interchange due to some of the factors discussed in the book we're discussing. There are plenty of other issues in Slate if you want to avoid this one.
--Jill42000
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[Reaction to Wednesday's entry]
Jeffrey Goldberg is certainly entitled to his sophmoric opinions that seem to dominate his discussion of Freedman's book. He is even entitled to dislike the Orthodox Jews who move into his neighborhood, or into neighborhoods like his. But he is decidedly not entitled to do anything to keep them out. That is just plain old fashioned bigotry of the sort I'm sure Goldberg would condem were those being kept out of the neighborhod African-American. And while Goldberg conveniantly says that he "is not talking about the modern Orthodox," let's not forget that it was a Modern Orthodox synagogue that the Reform Jews in Beachwood, Ohio were trying to prevent.
Oh, and by the way, in my more than thirty-years living in Brooklyn's "black-hat" neighborhoods I have never come across a "mezuzah store"; we do, however, have many dry cleaners
--Avi Schick
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To Avi Schick:
Jeff Goldberg poses the exact right question about Sam Freedman's book. As the brother of a (brilliant, loving, endlessly curious) black-hat, I still would react with alarm if my neighborhood were invaded by the Orthodox. Am I a bigot--someone who refuses to live and let live? Not exactly. The issue is that many of the Orthodox won't live and let live. The new arrivals observe the Shabbos--mazel tov. But for some of them, that observance includes walking down the sidewalk and hollering insults at longtime Jewish residents who choose not to--or, as Freedman reports, walking with their strollers in the middle of the street to discourage car traffic. (That seems a rather nutty risk to take with a baby, don't you think? I'd question those parents' fitness to raise children.) Pretty soon they're hissing at women with bare arms and picketing the theaters that show movies on Friday night and then--oy, there goes the neighborhood.
--David Edelstein
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I think Mr. Goldberg may be eliding a crucial distinction between Israel and America. I also lived in Israel and shared the fears of the secular Israeli majority about a creeping fundamentalist takeover. Here's the thing, however: In Israel, the combination of parliamentary horse-trading and the absence of separation between religion and state has meant that the ultra-Orthodox have a powerful say in determining the laws. Some results: only Orthodox Jewish marriages are recognized, and Israeli Jewish women must receive a religious divorce (get) from their ex-husbands in order to remarry, opening the door to all sorts of blackmail. The ultra-Orthodox also get to impose Sabbath blue laws and sundry other inconveniences on the secular majority; and when they move into a neighborhood, they will throw stones at cars driving on the Sabbath, harass "immodestly dressed" women, etc.
None of this holds true in America, so the justification for "keeping them out" of any neighborhood vanishes. According to the excerpt from Freedman's book published in last Sunday's New York Times Magazine, one of the Reform Jewish leaders of the movement to deny the Orthodox Jewish residents of Beachwood, Ohio the right to build a religious center became devoted to the cause after an Orthodox woman chided him for digging in his garden on the Sabbath. I'm sorry, but I just don't see this as on a par with the massive violations of civil rights the ultra-Orthodox impose on secular Israelis.
--Martin J. Gidron
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[From the Fray Editor: Stuart responded to Gidron here.]
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