Jew vs. Jew
B-List Orthodox
Posted Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2000, at 3:55 PM ETHi Jeffrey, my JEW friend (Shalom? Boker Tov?),
OK, you asked for a good Jewish brawl, so I'll begin with a minor insult (and then maybe Freedman can write a whole chapter about us).
It seems you've fallen right into the Freedman trap. With your whitefish jokes and anti-Semitic shivers, you prove yourself the perfect specimen of the American "Just Jew," Freedman's anti-hero, a bland hybrid of Jerry Seinfeld and Abe Foxman (president of the ever vigilant Anti-Defamation League, for all those out there who are not like me and Jeff) and the reason American Jewry will become extinct.
As for your concern about the sudden ubiquity of the word "Jew": Since Lieberman became twice chosen (see, it took me only two sentences to get to him, but mine were longer), I've been running into all manner of very nervous Reform Jews, alumni of Camp Kinderwelt or some such rope-sandal Zionist swamp. Because I am the "religion reporter," most feel comfortable confessing their deepest fears to me: A few more of those Lieberman chutzpah jokes and we will be overrun by northern Idaho Nazis. I can't tell you how many times I've been forwarded the Web site of some Christian Identity group with its extensive bios of "Antichrist Jew Senators."
Now, I am the least conspiratorial person I know, so this line of reasoning rarely stirs me. And I definitely can't get worked up about it this time. I'm no Jew expert, but I've been working at a newspaper long enough to know that headline writers are not the types to get a secret thrill from the Germanic ring of the word Jew; they use it because it's shorter.
If anything, this is a good thing. "Jew" will become another one of those words like "dyke" or "bitch," defanged and hip. Pretty soon it will show up in the next Dr Dre production, the latest synonym for "phat." ("You so Jew, n-----")
Now back to Freedman. He might not have won over a grizzled Jewish Forward veteran such as yourself, but I was at least convinced that we have come to some moment of truth in Jewish American history. It's probably not, however, the tragic splinter moment Freedman fears. You'll notice that in riding the Lieberman wave, Freedman's op-eds in the New York Times and elsewhere have been much more sanguine than his conclusions in the book. As pundit of the hour, he's taken the same position as the New Republic editorial this week (we'll pretend we don't know it was written by Leon Wieseltier), that the ascension of this Orthodox Jew is a good thing, proving for the first time in their history that Jews have found a home outside of Zion, that "a Jew in modern America need not diminish his faith as the price for worldly achievement," as Freedman wrote in the Times.
But forget the book's conclusion for a moment, since that's the least convincing part of his story. The beauty of this book is in the human details. Freedman is a genius at picking out a handful of surprising characters and tracing their disappointment with the process of assimilation. In one of the best chapters about the Yale 5, who sued the school for making them live in sex-happy co-ed dorms, there's Daniel Greer, father of one of the plaintiffs, an Orthodox Jew who hid his kippa during his Princeton years, became a successful lawyer and businessman, but then decided modern America undermined morality and had "to be handled cautiously instead of embraced."
Or David Gottesman and Si Wachsberger, divided by what might seem to many only a sliver of history but who end up bitter enemies in the Cleveland suburb war over the Orthodox synagogue (see the Jew vs. Jew excerpt in last week's New York Times Magazine): A woman from Gottesman's camp hissing at Si as he tends to his petunias one sunny Saturday, "On Shabbos you have to work?" Si, executive director of his Reform temple for a decade, winding up thoroughly pissed off ("Who was anybody to tell him he wasn't Jewish enough? Or that he was some kind of Nazi?").
Sure, we know that the Orthodox hate the Reform, and the Reform hate the Orthodox, etc., but it's great to know exactly how they hate each other and where and how much and precisely what insults they prefer, and what it all leads to. And Freedman is especially good at laying it all out, detail by painful detail.
In the end, though, it doesn't seem to add up to the civil war he hopes for. Partly because of what you say--Jews fight, they always fight, that's what they do. But also because when Freedman assumes the Orthodox will triumph as the only viable model and drive away everyone else, he underestimates the stubbornness of the non-Orthodox Seinfeld Jews like me and you. (I'm guessing here. For all I know you are right now strapping on your phylactery.)
Here is where I redeem my earlier insult, and ask your forgiveness: At this point, our constant self-doubt has become a kind of solid identity; we are defined by the constant struggle to figure out whether to go to synagogue, whether to marry the blonde, whether to make her convert. Whether to tell those whitefish jokes at the editorial meetings.
In this way, we are a B-list version of modern Orthodox Jews like Lieberman, simultaneously giddy and suspicious about America. Only they do it through Maimonides, while we watch reruns of Annie Hall.
Anyway, didn't mean to get so serious, but can't think of a good joke.
With love,
Chana ...
B-List Orthodox
Posted Tuesday, Aug. 15, 2000, at 3:55 PM ET
This week, a discussion of Jew vs. Jew, Samuel Freedman's examination of escalating tensions among American Jews (click here to buy the book). Jeffrey Goldberg is a regular contributor to Slate and the New York Times Magazine. Hanna Rosin is the religion correspondent for the Washington Post. Reader Comments from The Fray:
[Reaction to Tuesday's entry]
I also feel the sting of the word Jew, but I'm not so thin-skinned as to hold it against the user. It falls into the same category as adjectives-used-as-nouns, like "he's a black" or "she's a gay," though in this case Jew is a noun. People don't like what they see as a rich, deep, everlasting heritage reduced to a single, one-syllable word; they believe the complexity of their people must be reflected in the term used to label their identities. I find this to be wrongheaded and kind of chickenshit. Because Jewish American is far-less evocative--because it's so specific, it reduces a person even more than just plain Jew--I prefer the one syllable; it's more open-ended. Words, especially identity labels, are so much more abstract than more descriptive words anyway; why try and make them say more than they can? Please use Jew and not Jewish-American, Mr. Goldberg, because each of us is capable of more than two adjectives.
--Simon
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I haven't read Freedman's book, but from a couple of reviews I gather there is big news for Jews in the book. the news is that after decades of decline, Orthodox Judaism is making a strong comeback, and that the newly-revitalized Orthodox are in some sense, according to Freedman, winning the battle against the much larger and more loosely organized Reform and Conservative factions.
What I don't know is whether this Orthodox resurgence is strong enough to seriously curtail the decline of Judaism in the United States. I doubt it. Some figures I got from an organization that keeps track of such things indicates that the Jewish population of the U.S. has declined from 3.5% of the population in the 1950s (5 million Jews), to 2.2% in 1990 (5.6 million Jews in a much more populous country), and that most of that population increase is due not to more Jewish births here, but to immigration.
I find the resurgence of Orthodoxy fascinating. the new Orthodox are often young, well-educated people, doctors, lawyers, educators, even college professors. In the old days, Orthodox Jews were generally older and less well educated. A lot of them had trouble speaking English. They were looked down upon by other Jews as hopelessly ignorant and out of date.
More than that I find it fascinating that, after the Holocaust, any Jew could take his/her religion (as opposed to Jewish peoplehood) seriously, much less well-educated people. After centuries of persecution climaxed by the slaughter of the 6 million, how can any Jew take seriously the Bible's notion of a just and merciful God? Where was that God during Auschwitz? Did he take a few years off in Miami Beach? I've been told that Orthodox Jews believe the Holocaust was god's punishment to all Jews for the growing number of non-observant Jews. But how can bright, educated people believe so fervently in a God who would permit the slaughter of helpless old women and little babies, among others?
No, I think, there is no god. but the Jews who invented the Western world's notion of God have been very much a presence and an influence, largely for the good, for more than four thousand years. and I hope they will continue to be for another four thousand years and, I hope, many more.
--samg
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Geez, Louise, why is this e-zine obsessed with Judaism and Jews? It seems nary a week goes by when we aren't treated to navel-gazing by various people about their or their friends' Jewishness, ruminations about it, reflections about it, ad nauseam. This Jew, for one, is tired of it - and I'm affiliated, and take my religion seriously. I wonder what others must think. Please, please, write about the interesting goings-on in the Dominican community in NY. Or the Irish Catholics in the suburbs. Or the growing Bengali community. Or recent immigrants from West Africa. Or those radical Norwegian-Americans who populate Minnesota. Arent' any of those other ethnic or religious groups worth writing about? Or is this all just confirmation that journalists, like most people, are self-centered--lots of Jews on the staff of Slate, so we get lots of articles about their ethnic angst. Sorry, guys, but it's getting really tiresome already.
--Stuart
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To Stuart:
One of the things I enjoy about this e-zine is the fact that sometimes there is a dialogue on Jewish issues in which Jews and non-Jews from different points of view can communicate. Many Jewish sites don't offer the same degree of interchange due to some of the factors discussed in the book we're discussing. There are plenty of other issues in Slate if you want to avoid this one.
--Jill42000
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[Reaction to Wednesday's entry]
Jeffrey Goldberg is certainly entitled to his sophmoric opinions that seem to dominate his discussion of Freedman's book. He is even entitled to dislike the Orthodox Jews who move into his neighborhood, or into neighborhoods like his. But he is decidedly not entitled to do anything to keep them out. That is just plain old fashioned bigotry of the sort I'm sure Goldberg would condem were those being kept out of the neighborhod African-American. And while Goldberg conveniantly says that he "is not talking about the modern Orthodox," let's not forget that it was a Modern Orthodox synagogue that the Reform Jews in Beachwood, Ohio were trying to prevent.
Oh, and by the way, in my more than thirty-years living in Brooklyn's "black-hat" neighborhoods I have never come across a "mezuzah store"; we do, however, have many dry cleaners
--Avi Schick
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To Avi Schick:
Jeff Goldberg poses the exact right question about Sam Freedman's book. As the brother of a (brilliant, loving, endlessly curious) black-hat, I still would react with alarm if my neighborhood were invaded by the Orthodox. Am I a bigot--someone who refuses to live and let live? Not exactly. The issue is that many of the Orthodox won't live and let live. The new arrivals observe the Shabbos--mazel tov. But for some of them, that observance includes walking down the sidewalk and hollering insults at longtime Jewish residents who choose not to--or, as Freedman reports, walking with their strollers in the middle of the street to discourage car traffic. (That seems a rather nutty risk to take with a baby, don't you think? I'd question those parents' fitness to raise children.) Pretty soon they're hissing at women with bare arms and picketing the theaters that show movies on Friday night and then--oy, there goes the neighborhood.
--David Edelstein
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I think Mr. Goldberg may be eliding a crucial distinction between Israel and America. I also lived in Israel and shared the fears of the secular Israeli majority about a creeping fundamentalist takeover. Here's the thing, however: In Israel, the combination of parliamentary horse-trading and the absence of separation between religion and state has meant that the ultra-Orthodox have a powerful say in determining the laws. Some results: only Orthodox Jewish marriages are recognized, and Israeli Jewish women must receive a religious divorce (get) from their ex-husbands in order to remarry, opening the door to all sorts of blackmail. The ultra-Orthodox also get to impose Sabbath blue laws and sundry other inconveniences on the secular majority; and when they move into a neighborhood, they will throw stones at cars driving on the Sabbath, harass "immodestly dressed" women, etc.
None of this holds true in America, so the justification for "keeping them out" of any neighborhood vanishes. According to the excerpt from Freedman's book published in last Sunday's New York Times Magazine, one of the Reform Jewish leaders of the movement to deny the Orthodox Jewish residents of Beachwood, Ohio the right to build a religious center became devoted to the cause after an Orthodox woman chided him for digging in his garden on the Sabbath. I'm sorry, but I just don't see this as on a par with the massive violations of civil rights the ultra-Orthodox impose on secular Israelis.
--Martin J. Gidron
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[From the Fray Editor: Stuart responded to Gidron here.]
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