Penn State Frat Member Says Pictures of Nonconsenting Nude Women Are “Satire”
Questions are being raised about the moral turpitude flourishing inside the walls of the Kappa Delta Rho fraternity at Penn State University, which was discovered to have a members-only Facebook page featuring non-consensual nude photos of women. Now Philadelphia has published an interview with one of the 143 men who participated in the group. His comments suggest that he may not be getting all he can out of his expensive education.
After this anonymous member sent Philadephia a statement complaining that the media attention will "ruin people's lives and unjustly ruin reputations" (coincidentally, also concerns for women subjected to nonconsensual nude photography), the magazine reached out to him. He explained:
The Jinx Highlights How Cops Once Dismissed Domestic Violence
The Jinx, HBO's documentary about the hijinks of the alleged murderer Robert Durst, has created a welcome swirl of media attention covering nearly every angle, from hand-wringing over the journalistic practices to questioning the timeline of events, to exploring the meaning behind Durst's dark pupils. But one factor has gotten very little attention in the renewed interest: That domestic violence, and law enforcement's inclination not to take it seriously, is at the heart of the allegations against Durst.
Durst has long been suspected in the 1982 disappearance of his one-time wife, Kathleen Durst, though never arrested or convicted. The other two incidents covered in The Jinx—the alleged murder of Susan Berman, for which Durst has now been arrested, and the killing of Morris Black, to which he admits to—are thought by several of Kathleen's relatives and also law enforcement agents interviewed in The Jinx to be related to the first, allegedly committed to keep the victims from talking to the police about Durst's secrets. This matters, because if the suspicions expressed in The Jinx are true, then Durst isn't an unknowable monster, but something far more common: The wife beater (something he admits to in the documentary) who escalated his violence to murder. Serial killers who kill for the thrill of it are rare. But men whose desire to control women leads to murder are not. Thirty-four percent of female homicide victims are killed by a male partner.
Google Chairman Gets Called Out by His Own Employee for Interrupting a Female Panelist at SXSW
South by Southwest Interactive has been stepping up its programming on social justice and diversity in the tech world, but, as Karissa Bell of Mashable reports, an incident at a panel on Monday shows how far the tech world really has to go.
On Monday, Google Executive Chairman Eric Schmidt and acclaimed Steve Jobs biographer Walter Isaacson were wrapping up a SXSW Interactive panel that had focused on diversity, when an audience member called out the two men for repeatedly interrupting their fellow panelist, the United States' Chief Technology Officer Megan Smith.
Even more awkward? The audience member who posed the question was apparently Judith Williams, who heads up Google's unconscious bias program.
Professional Theater Has a Sexual Harassment Problem
In the New York Times this weekend, reporter Patrick Healy detailed a burgeoning movement to reduce the problem of sexual harassment and violence in the world of professional theater. Healy interviewed "45 performers, dancers, writers, directors and other theater artists from around the country" and found that the problem of sexual harassment is endemic, and that most of the current solutions are toothless.
At the heart of the matter is how different it is working in theater than in typical work environments:
While sexual misconduct and harassment policies have become more stringent in places from university campuses to dot-com start-ups, theater remains largely unregulated. And it is a unique work environment, one that asks employees to flirt and kiss, argue and fight, strip naked and simulate sex eight times a week for what can be months on end. After hours, sexual encounters are common among cast members; actors date one another, and directors sometimes date their actors. When powerful people behave badly, they have agents to protect them.
Cops on an 11-Year-Old Who Says She Was Raped: “Child’s Promiscuous Behavior Caused This”
Rape victims often feel like they're the ones being put on trial, but Joanna Walters of the Washington Post published a story late last week about a young victim of repeated gang rapes who actually was. When Danielle Hicks-Best was only 11 years old, she says a group of two or three young men took her to a house to sexually assault her. Her parents reported this to the police and Hicks-Best was taken to the hospital, where the doctor discovered vaginal tears and scrapes. A few days later, when Hicks-Best was walking to the store, she says, the same group of young men grabbed her and did it again. Again, the rape kit showed evidence of assault.
Despite all this, no young men were arrested for the crime. Instead, Hicks-Best was arrested six weeks later and charged with filing a false police report. She had just turned 12 years old. Hicks-Best denied any guilt but, apparently exhausted with fighting according to the Post, allowed an Alford plea, where the defendant accepts "that there was enough evidence for a conviction — in effect, consenting to the court’s finding of guilt," Walters writes. Hicks-Best spent the next few years spiraling out of control, running away and acting out. Now, at age 18, she's trying to get her life back on track and is speaking out about what happened to her.
“Choreplay” Is a Lie
Moments in my life when I wished I weren’t female have been rare. One of them happened this week, when I noticed the word “choreplay” was entering the lexicon. It came up prominently in a New York Times op-ed co-written by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant about how men also benefit from gender equality. The authors cite the dubious study showing that couples who share chores also have more sex. Sandberg says that she advises men who want to please their wives to skip buying the flowers and instead, do a load of laundry.
“A man who heard this was asked by his wife one night to do a load of laundry,” she writes. “He picked up the basket and asked hopefully, ‘Is this Lean In laundry?’ Choreplay is real.”
I don’t fully understand what this man toting the basket of “dirty” clothes was hoping for. Is “lean in” now a sexual term? Did men used to say these are “pretend to be my secretary” flowers? Did that couple “choreplay” right there on the laundry room floor or does the innuendo carry you deep into the night? Either way, I really, truly do not relate.
Why the Fringe Fundamentalist Belief in Demonic Possession Has Real-Life Dangers
This story of Arkansas state legislator Justin Harris’ adoption debacle has been a classic, slow-moving trainwreck, as the Arkansas press discovers disturbing new details on a near-daily basis that have launched what started as a local scandal into national headlines. It’s a story that touches on many hot-button issues—the evangelical enthusiasm for adoption, the disturbing practice of “rehoming,” child sexual abuse—but what has really sent this story to the next level are reports of children being subject to abuse due to the Harris’ alleged belief in demon possession.
The story first surfaced when the Arkansas Times discovered that a man named Eric Cameron Francis, who was arrested for raping a 6-year-old in his care, had previously worked for Harris and his wife, Marsha Harris, at their day care, named Growing God’s Kingdom. Harris copped to having hired and then fired Francis, but he didn’t admit to what the Times dug up: The only reason that Francis had the little girl in the first place was the Harrises gave her to him.* The victim and her sister had been adopted by the Harrises in 2013 and then, six months later, were rehomed with Francis and his wife, a practice that is apparently legal in Arkansas.
The Texas Republican Defending Planned Parenthood
Texas Republicans are trying, yet again, to undermine women's access to reproductive health care in their state, but this time they are getting some pushback from within their own party. On Tuesday, Republican state representative Sarah Davis spoke out against the state legislature's attempts to restructure the Breast and Cervical Cancer Screening program in the state to exclude Planned Parenthood, as part of the Republicans' endless war on that organization. “I don’t think it is appropriate to continue to fund the women’s health program so that we can make some type of a political statement as Republicans that we care about women, only to chip away at the safety net of the providers,” Davis said during a legislative meeting. “If we don’t have the provider network, women cannot be served. And they will die.”
When Career Ambitions Break Up a Marriage
Over the past few years, there has been a great deal of discussion about why women aren’t achieving as much in their careers as their male counterparts, even though women have been enrolling in and graduating from college in greater numbers than men since the 1980s. Explanations for this gender gap range from women aren’t “leaning in” enough, to entrenched sexism in the workplace, to husbands’ careers taking precedence, to a lack of social supports for mothers in American society.
But when we discuss the issue in a macro way, we don’t hear the stories of men and women who are making career choices not as statistics in a think piece, but as part of an often complicated balancing act between various interests and responsibilities in their lives. Here is the eighth interview in an occasional series, Best Laid Plans, about how career decisions get made over time and are altered by the unpredictability of life.
Names: Caitlin and Stephen
Ages: 27 and 26
Caitlin’s Occupation: Full-time law student
Stephen’s Occupation: Squash professional
Caitlin’s Location: Washington, D.C.
Stephen’s Location: Richmond, Virginia
Hi, Caitlin. What were your career expectations when you first started working?
I went into historic preservation right out of college. I planned to rise up in management and eventually end up in a directorship position, possibly with a small historical preservation society. I was a history major, and I worked in a museum between college and graduate school. I did a master’s in architectural history at the University of Virginia. There’s a lot of opportunity in the field because architectural history is becoming more relevant as cities age—federal laws require that you do an analysis on the impact of historic structures.
Hi, Stephen. What were your career expectations?
When I was a kid back in Ireland, my dad had a construction company and I worked there every summer throughout high school, and then I went into business with him after high school. But I always wanted to play sports. I excelled at sports: I played nationally in rugby and squash. I met Caitlin in Ireland though a friend of mine I played rugby with, and we started dating. We were both studying at the University of Limerick at the time. I got a couple of bad injuries playing rugby, so I went back to working with my dad in construction. But growing up in Ireland, I thought my rugby career would be the be-all end-all, as every young Irish kid does.
Did you expect to get married and have kids in the future?
Caitlin: Family had always been a goal. I wanted to have a family, have a job, and be successful. But financial security and a fulfilling career were priorities. I met my husband when I was a junior in college studying abroad in Ireland in 2008. He’s Irish. We kept in touch for a year and a half when he was still living over seas. We made the decision together that he would move to the states. He was accomplished at the sport of squash at home, and he wanted to work in squash in the states, because there’s a lot of money and opportunity in private coaching here. I helped him get his green card, and we got married at the courthouse when I was 23 and he was 22. I did his paper work, got him into squash in Virginia, and helped him out with a place to live.
As soon as he got on his feet, I started grad school. We were struggling then. He camped out with my parents in Richmond, Virginia, and I had a small apartment in Charlottesville. But it was very much a partnership then. My mother accepted I wanted to go to grad school. She wished I was working, too, but she put up with it.
After I got my master’s in architectural history, I worked for the state of Virginia as an architectural historian. I was getting paid $13 an hour and my contract was renewed every 3 months. I had no benefits and no job security. So I took a job with a consulting firm in Washington D.C., and it doubled my salary. I was still only making $45,000 a year, but it was something. Stephen had an opportunity to work for a squash club here in D.C., but it fell through. So he thought it would be best for both of us to move back to Virginia because there was a squash job for him there. My mother agreed with him—that I would find something to do there. That really frustrated me. When you’re pursuing a real career, you don’t want to just find “something.” You want to move vertically or horizontally. I didn’t want to go back to $13 an hour.
That’s when we started having issues. He moved back to Richmond full time. He got a job as the director of squash for a health and fitness club in Richmond. He runs his own squash program. There’s upward mobility in this position because the club he’s with is starting to expand, and they’re opening up new locations. The more expanding and the more popular the sport gets, the more he stands to rise.
So he kept insisting I move back to Richmond, too. I lost my job last spring, and he said, “Now you have no reason to stay in D.C., you have to move home.” I said, “I want to apply to law school,” and he said, “Absolutely not. You have no job. We have no money. You need to move home. I know you said you have career ambitions, but it’s best to focus on my career for now. I can support us. I can give us the life we want, and that’s not your responsibility.” But it wasn’t about my responsibility, my work was fulfilling to me. I got a full scholarship to law school here in D.C., so I decided to stay. He decided to stay in Richmond, and that was that.
Fullback Bruce Miller Arrested for Domestic Violence. How Will the NFL and 49ers Respond?
After enduring months of controversy and criticism after the release of a video showing Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée in an elevator, the NFL finally released updated policies regarding the handling of players accused of domestic violence in December. Now it appears the policies are undergoing their first real test. Bruce Miller, a fullback for the San Francisco 49ers, was arrested late Thursday night, accused of battery against his girlfriend. So far, the 49ers have not said much. "The San Francisco 49ers organization is aware of the matter involving Bruce Miller,” the team wrote in a statement. “We were disappointed to learn of these reports and will do our due diligence in collecting all relevant information.”
In the midst of the controversy last year, several teams took decisive action. The 49ers already let another player, Ray McDonald, go in December after sexual assault allegations were leveled against him. The charges have since been dropped and McDonald is now a free agent. Carolina Panthers defensive end Greg Hardy sat out most of last season because of domestic violence accusations, and was formally released by the Panthers to become a free agent this week. The charges against Hardy were also dropped and it's still up in the air whether or not the NFL will suspend him, but teams like the Atlanta Falcons are already hastily denying any intention of picking him up as a player. Miller's arrest, however, comes during the off-season, with much less media attention on the NFL. How the 49ers act when not as many eyes are watching matters a lot.