Yesterday we published a wonderful piece by XX Factor blogger KJ Dell'Antonia about her difficult experience learning to love her adoptive daughter from China, as a way of understanding why Tennessee nurse Torry Hansen sent her 7-year-old adoptive son back to Russia. Last night, KJ shared her story with CNN's Campbell Brown . In the clip below, KJ explains that she hopes her story will help add nuance to the conversation about international adoption. "We want it to be a happy ending right away, and we need to talk about [adoption] in a different way," she says. "We need to talk about learning to be a family."