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April 23 2014 10:58 AM

Ask a Homo: Gay Bar Etiquette

Welcome to Outward’s new video feature, Ask a Homo. As we queers have sashayed our way in to the cultural mainstream over the last couple of decades, our presence has no doubt inspired a great deal of curiosity and confusion in straight folk. But fear not: Ask a Homo is here to help. If you have questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, or other queer conundrums, send them our way, and a real-life homosexual will respond. And don’t worry—as long as your question is reasonably respectful, this is a safe space. A willingness to experiment a little—intellectually!—is all that’s required.

This week, June Thomas fields queries about how straight people should behave in and around gay bars.


If there are questions you’ve been dying to ask a member of the real rainbow coalition, this is your chance. Send your queries—for publication—to, and please put “ASK A HOMO” in the subject line. Note that questions may be edited.

June Thomas is a Slate culture critic and editor of Outward, Slate’s LGBTQ section. 

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