Would a Second Sarkozy Presidency End Marriage Equality in France?
After losing the 2012 French presidential election to François Hollande, Nicolas Sarkozy swore he was leaving politics for good. He made a stab at business in the following years, bankrolled by his friends in Qatar, but was an even bigger failure at that than he had been as president. After months of fake suspense, he finally made the official announcement last week that he would run to lead his political party, the UMP, which is crippled by corruption scandals (many involving Sarkozy's own 2012 presidential campaign) and drowning in debt.
Although a majority of French people would like Sarkozy to go away, he remains popular among party members, and is the clear favorite to win UMP leadership race, which would in turn position him well to become the right-wing party's candidate for the presidency in 2017. But with his comments last Sunday about marriage equality—he suggested it was "humiliating" to straight families—Sarkozy may have weakened his chances of winning by bringing jaded LGBTQ voters back into play.
Key & Peele Explain What Straights Should Expect at a Gay Wedding
As we continue the battle for marriage equality, it can be easy to forget that everyone who expresses confusion about gay marriage—the wedding ceremony in particular—is not necessarily homophobic. In fact, it's good to remeber that the wedding, as a ritual that comes caked in fairly conservative, gender-based traditions like “giving away the bride,” is bound to cause some dissonace for even supportive family and friends when the couple involved is same-sex. Though they can sometimes feel perplexing, questions are natural and should be dealt with as graciously as possible. As someone who just recently got gay-married, I can tell you: Fieldng awkward queries and correcting erroneous assumptions is just part of the process.
I reference that background only to account for why “Gay Wedding Advice,” a newly released teaser sketch from Key & Peele's fourth season (which starts Wednesday night on Comedy Central), stuck me as almost painfully funny. In the clip, a well-meaning member of the Johnson clan engages his family in a dialogue about their cousin Delroy, who is about to be wed ... “to a man!” Being a good facilitator, the host brings in a guest expert to take questions: His co-worker and “active member of the homosexual community,” Gary. An exchange about “gay and straight sections” in the church quickly devolves into a hilarious skewering of straight anxieties about gay marriage ceremonies, which while understandable, are also a little silly.
(If you're curious for more gay wedding advice, check out Ask a Homo's take.)
Why Can’t the Census Count Gay Couples Accurately?
Last week, the Census Bureau announced that about 252,000 gay married couples live in the United States as of 2013, following its first ever attempt to gather data on gay spouses, part of the annual American Community Survey. This figure, however, came coupled with the caveat that it was almost certainly incorrect—because, the bureau explained, counting gay couples is really, really hard.
Nuptial Expert Sarkozy Worries About Gay Marriage and the Family
In October 2007, shortly after then-French president Nicolas Sarkozy moved into the Élysée Palace, his second wife, Cécilia Attias, left him for her lover, Richard Attias. (Sarkozy and Cécilia first met when he was officiating her wedding to television star Jacques Martin in his role as mayor of Paris. Sarkozy was, at the time, also married to someone else.) In February 2008, only a few months after Cécilia had departed, Sarkozy married supermodel-singer Carla Bruni. One might think that given this particularly expansive marital history, Sarkozy would decline to comment on supposed threats to the institution. But non.
Reactions to a Sketch of Chelsea Manning Reveal Transmisogyny
Chelsea Manning, the transgender former solider currently imprisoned for her involvement with Wikileaks, has spoken out against President Obama’s ISIS strategy, penning an opinion piece for the Guardian titled “How to make Isis fall on its own sword.” Responses to the article were predictably heated, in some cases focusing more on Manning’s genitalia than on her U.S. foreign policy insights. But Manning’s words weren’t the only aspect of the op-ed that drew criticism: In fact, according to around-up on Twitter curation site Twitchy, many readers seemed more offended by the sketched image of Manning beside her byline than by anything she said.
Instead of the typical photograph, Manning’s “headshot” is an artistic rendering, which critics on social media and commenters described as “horrifying,” “laughable,” and drawn by “pissed off police sketch artists.” When the piece initially appeared online, most everyone seemed to assume that the Guardian had created the apparently distasteful image on its own. But according to editor Matt Sullivan, that wasn’t the case. “Just to clarify,” Sullivan later explained in a comment, “the illustration that accompanies the author bio on this piece was made in cooperation with Chelsea Manning, as an artistic representation of how she sees herself.”
Symantec Removes Its “Sexual Orientation” Filter
Imagine that you’re a young, somewhat culturally isolated teenager who has just begun to explore her sexuality. You’ve overheard terms like “LGBTQ” or “marriage equality” on the news, and so, naturally, you go online to find more information. But the moment you try to click through to an organization like HRC, the Trevor Project, or even a publication like Outward, you get blocked by your computer’s adult-content filters. You conclude, quite understandably, that there must be something wrong—or at least something embarrassing—about this stuff. A new feeling mixes in with your healthy curiosity: Guilt.
When we slap everything remotely LGBTQ-related with an “adult” label, we cosign content as diverse as pornography and mental health services to the same difficult-to-access basket. That’s a bad situation for queer youth for whom support resources and positive media representations can be a matter of survival, and it’s insulting to the community at large—gays may make some X-rated things, but not everything gay is even close to X-rated. Filtering anything that falls under an “LGBTQ” label is clearly offensive, and, as my vignette demonstrates, it can also be damaging.
Gays on TV: From National Freakout to Modern Family Fun
Just a few years ago, whenever gay, lesbian, or bisexual characters appeared on broadcast television, a national freakout was never far behind. These days there are more queer TV characters than ever before, and television representations of gay life are increasingly rich and nuanced, even as the old lesbians-titilate, gays-entertain tropes sometimes remain in play.
This video considers all the out-queers on the small screen—as well as all the gay wannabes, pretend-to-bes, and should-bes—taking stock of how far we've come and looking forward to where we might go next.
LGBTQ Luminaries Honored With MacArthur “Genius” Fellowships
The MacArthur Foundation awards its “Genius” fellowships annually to those individuals who “show exceptional creativity in their work and the prospect for still more in the future.” So it’s exciting to look at this year’s list of recipients, which was announced on Wednesday, and find two truly exceptional figures from the LGBTQ community—Alison Bechdel and Mary Bonauto.
Many readers will know Bechdel from her critically acclaimed 2006 graphic memoir Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic, which captures (among many other things) her coming out experience and the discovery that her father himself was homosexual and closeted. As we covered here, the book recently enjoyed a second-life as an off-Broadway musical. Bechdel’s second memoir, Are You My Mother: A Comic Drama, was similarly well-received; Bechdel discussed that book and its themes with Outward’s June Thomas in 2012.
If Bechdel comes from the artistic sector of queer luminaries, civil rights lawyer Mary Bonauto is an ideal representative of the crucial legal activism side. Thought it’s easy to forget in a world where Windsor dominates the lede of most gay marriage stories, Bonauto and her partners at Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD) were responsible for building out much of the legal framework that made later gay rights victories possible, especially in terms of the state-by-state approach which laid the groundwork for successful federal challenges. As Slate’s Justin Peters succinctly put it in a profile of Bonauto last summer, “she has had a hand in pretty much every major gay marriage legal victory over the past 20 years.”
Genius can be a subjective term, but in the case of these two remarkable queer women, it’s clearly well-deserved.
Ask a Homo: Secret Ally Codes
Welcome back to Ask a Homo, a judgment-free zone where the gays of Outward answer questions about LGBTQ politics, culture, etiquette, language, and other queer conundrums. This week, a wonderfully supportive mother asks if she should share the pride she feels for her gay daughter with unsuspecting strangers on the street.
If there are questions you’ve been dying to ask a member of the real rainbow coalition, this is your chance. Send your queries—for publication—to firstname.lastname@example.org, and please put “ASK A HOMO” in the subject line. Note that questions may be edited.
Other Questions Asked of Homos:
How should I greet a closeted co-worker's partner?
Why do gay men like musical theater?
Is it OK for straight women to talk about their “girl crushes”?
What was the best time in history to be gay?
Do lesbian couples always reflect a butch-femme dynamic?
Why is bitchiness encouraged among gay men?
What do lesbians think of LUGs—lesbians until graduation?
Why do gay people call themselves queer?
Are gay weddings different from straight ceremonies?
Why do gay men sometimes call each other she?
What’s the deal with tops and bottoms?
Why do lesbians wear so much flannel?
What's the deal with the gay lisp?
Should a straight person frequent a gay bar?
What Is Straight Ice Cream?
The culture wars have been fought on all manner of terrain over the years, but as far as I know, Rocky Road is new ground. Sugary shots were fired in New York City over the weekend as Gallo Nero, an Italian restaurant located in Manhattan’s West Village, posted an advertisement for its ice cream offerings that seemed to mock its famous neighbor the Big Gay Ice Cream shop. The sign, featuring two rather drab looking cones of different flavors leaning suggestively toward each other, proclaimed that here customers could find “The Big STRAIGHT ice cream.”
While it’s difficult to discern whether the Gallo Nero ad was malicious or just a badly played joke—statements to local media have been cryptic—the notion of “straight” ice cream is a fascinating one. Gay ice cream, at least as the “Big” guys define it, means frozen creations that are often named after campy gay icons like Bea Arthur and rambunctious flavor combinations (apple butter and bourbon butterscotch; key lime curd and graham crackers) that are clearly homosexual. Gay ice cream is also generally served in the presence of drag queen unicorn.