In Marc Lesser’s book Less: Accomplishing More by Doing Less , I read a fascinating list of such paradoxes by Chade-Meng Tan, a Google engineer whose title is "Jolly Good Fellow."
I was quite struck by his list – and also by the number of times that my resolutions and paradoxes overlapped with his.
His list, with my comments:
I strive hard to be lazy.
I resolve to
Force myself to wander
I’m selfishly compassionate. This reminds me of the Second Splendid Truth !
I desire to not want. Oh, I recognize that one.
Sometimes, I’m not myself.
Often, I’m not here, where I am. I have a big problem with this one, mindfulness.
I actively engage in nonactivity. I resolve to Schedule time to play .
I feel spiritual about my earthly desires. I loooove this one.
I sometimes fail at failing. I have to remind myself to Enjoy the fun of failure .
I make careless mistakes carefully.
Sometimes, my mind is full of nothing.
My own arrogance humbles me.
I’ve become a famous unknown.
I sometimes pity the more fortunate.
Have you found any paradoxes in your happiness project?
* I get a big kick out of the Art of Manliness blog, especially because I don't actually worry about my manliness. (When I read a site like the hilarious How Not to Act Old , I end up thinking about my wardrobe, my slang, my music, etc.)