The XX Factor: What women really think.

Was That a Threat or a Promise?

When you call my name, it's like a little prayer/
I'm down on my knees, I wanna take you there/
In the midnight hour I can feel your power/
Just like a prayer you know I'll take you there

                             —Madonna

OK, so now we know what's on Hillary's iPod. But was Hillary's "Like a Prayer'' speech ("I often felt that every vote was a prayer for our nation,'' she said) a threat or a promise? Was it a ham-handed demand for the No. 2 slot? (Pony up, friend o' mine, if you don't want 18 million angry Democrats on your front lawn by daybreak!) Or was it on the contrary her way of making sure he doesn't offer it to her—if he did so now, he'd look like the sort of person who gives in to blackmail—while also guaranteeing that her supporters are good and mad when he does not offer it to her. (And if it's the latter, she may or may not be on to her own sabotage; the proof that not everything she does is on purpose is her strange insistence on using and reusing that completely discredited battle cry about staying the course. "I'm so proud we stayed the course together,'' she said last night.)

There has never been anything wrong with her decision to stay in the race; it's how she waged war that was at issue. There is nothing wrong with the fact that she did not concede last night, either. But her mouth says unity, and her feet say kick him where it hurts.

Can the Unity Clock Start Running Now, Please?

Hillary was on her game tonight. She looked good. She spoke well. She touched on the groups of voters she feels she owns and the problems of theirs she wants to solve. And, alas, she went from more conciliatory (congratulating Obama) to less (I won the popular vote, the 18 million people who voted for me). Fair enough that she doesn't want to drop out tonight. But couldn't she have done more to start laying the groundwork for unity? Marjorie and Kim have been expressing their doubts lately about how blacks and women can come together after the gibes and elbow-throwing of this campaign. The same question more generally applies to the two halves of the Democratic Party. I'd like to think voters can do some of this on their own, and that the divisions don't run as deep and aren't as full of acrimony as they've seemed lately. But the signals Hillary sends now matter enormously. And tonight, she' s still telling us that who the Democratic nominee is matters more than what he or she does—or, really, whether he or she wins. A friend of my mother's who is a Hillary supporter told an Obama fundraiser recently that she needs time to heal. That will be a lot easier if Hillary starts the clock running. Tenacity is a feminist trait, yes. But a strong woman should also know how to make a gracious exit.