Donna Pinckley’s Sticks and Stones: A series that focuses on racist comments that target interracial relationships (PHOTOS).

Photos of Interracial Couples, and the Terrible, Racist Things People Have Said to Them

Photos of Interracial Couples, and the Terrible, Racist Things People Have Said to Them

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The Photo Blog
Oct. 1 2015 10:09 AM

The Terrible Things People Say to Interracial Couples

comb
“If she can’t use your comb, don't bring her home.”

Donna Pinckley

For the past couple of decades, most of Donna Pinckley’s photographs have focused on children and the objects that have personal significance for them. A few years ago, though, the University of Central Arkansas photography teacher noticed a post on Facebook of a girl she had photographed who was in an interracial relationship. The girl’s mother later told Pinckley that her daughter and her boyfriend had been the target of many cruel, racist comments. It brought back memories of another similar conversation Pinckley had many years earlier with a different mother.  

“What struck me was the resilience of both couples in the face of derision, their refusal to let others define them,” Pinckley wrote on her artist statement.

Two years ago, Pinckley decided to take a portrait of the couple she noticed on Facebook, the start of a series titled “Sticks and Stones,” in which she also asks the couples to write down some of the hateful, racist language that has been directed toward them. She then includes the language on the bottom of the portrait.   

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“I want the viewer to look at the portrait first and then look down and see the writing,” she said. “I want them to see how beautiful and how much they love each other first.”

milky
“You must like Milky Way.”

Donna Pinckley

whywith
"Why is he with her? He has all of us beautiful black women to choose from."

Donna Pinckley

house
“I told you a black woman lived with a white man in that house.”

Donna Pinckley

greencard
“All she wants from you is a green card.”

Donna Pinckley

Pinckley said that regardless of her work, her goal as a portrait photographer is to create a collaborative image. Because she is physically small and “pretty laid-back,” she feels her subjects often feel at ease around her. She feels it is important to include her relationship to her subjects within each frame. 

“It’s not only how you’re looking at them but how they’re looking at me, the connection that I have with them,” she said.

Pinckley finds her subjects through word of mouth and has started to broaden the mix of interracial couples she has already photographed by including more races and people in same-sex relationships.  

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“I want it to be about racism in all its forms,” she said. “I want people to at least start to think about it.”

While some couples have turned down her offer to be included in the series, Pinckley said others simply choose to ignore what has been told to them.

“Most of [the couples] are just not thinking about it,” she said. “Sometimes they don’t think they’ve had a racist comment made to them and then you start talking to them, and they have; they’ve chosen not to think about it.”

goodblack
"Look at you taking another one of our Good Black Men."

Donna Pinckley

white
"White men have taken everything, including our women."

Donna Pinckley

otherblack
"There are other black girls out there."

Donna Pinckley

David Rosenberg is the editor of Slate’s Behold blog. He has worked as a photo editor for 15 years and is a tennis junkie. Follow him on Twitter.