Dear Prudence podcast: the “Spousal Acknowledgement” edition.

Help! Do I Need to Thank My Unsupportive Husband in My Book?

Help! Do I Need to Thank My Unsupportive Husband in My Book?

Advice on manners and morals.
March 21 2018 8:30 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Spousal Acknowledgement” Edition

My husband wasn’t helpful as I was writing my first book. Do I need to include him in the acknowledgements? Help!

Man holding the 'dedicated to' page of his manuscript.

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Prudence is joined by Olga Kreimer, a journalist and grad student who writes an aggressively earnest advice column at the Los Angeles Review of Books. First up: Will it be awkward if I don’t mention my husband in the acknowledgment of my first book since he was super unsupportive of my writing process? As a teacher near Parkland, I’m having serious anxiety about our school’s preparedness for a shooting, but administrators aren’t taking my concerns seriously—what can I do? And lastly, my in-laws make wild accusations about folks in their hometown where I now live. What can I say—especially if some of them are true?

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