Dear Prudence podcast: The “Oh Roger” edition.

Help! My Ex Is Getting Remarried and Hasn’t Told Our Kids.

Help! My Ex Is Getting Remarried and Hasn’t Told Our Kids.

Advice on manners and morals.
Nov. 29 2017 12:21 PM

Dear Prudence: The “Oh Roger” Edition

How do I tell my kids that their dad is getting remarried just three weeks after our divorce? Help!

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Photo illustration by Slate. Photos by Thinkstock.

Listener Rachel Tibbetts joins for a doozy of a batch of sibling- and family-related letters. First up: My sister is repeating the same mistakes as my homewrecker father and she expects my support. My parents never gave me a dime growing up and now my siblings are throwing a fit that they helped me buy a house. My son-in-law has been a fixture in our family even after my eldest daughter died a decade ago, but now he’s engaged and my other daughter wants him out. My ex is getting married three weeks after our divorce—what do I tell our kids? Should I warn my brother’s fiancée about his violent past? And finally: Is it fair to ask my busy husband to do more?

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