Dear Prudence podcast: The “Good Grief” edition.

Help! Should I Have Allowed a Stranger’s Kid to Play With My iPad?

Help! Should I Have Allowed a Stranger’s Kid to Play With My iPad?

Advice on manners and morals.
Oct. 4 2017 8:00 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Good Grief” Edition

A stranger got mad at me for not letting her child use my iPad. Help!


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YA fiction writer and advocate for the disabled Maggie Faid joins Prudie to consult on matters of wedding guests, grief, and giving iPads to strangers. Should I tell my best friend how sad I am that she can’t come to my wedding? My sister tells everyone that she lost a child, but I don’t think a miscarriage counts. A stranger got mad at me for not letting her kid play with my iPad—did I do something wrong? My wife has a life-threatening illness and wants me to move on—should I heed her wishes? Can I tell my brother not to spank his children when my kids are around? Is it self-serving to offer condolences to someone I hardly know?

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