Dear Prudence podcast: The “Sunk Cost” edition.

Help! My Fiancé Keeps Postponing Our Wedding.

Help! My Fiancé Keeps Postponing Our Wedding.

Advice on manners and morals.
Sept. 20 2017 8:00 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Sunk Cost” Edition

Every time our wedding date approaches, my fiancé finds a way to put it off. Help!

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Writer and commentator Lindy West joins Prudence to encourage Thelma and Louise–style road trips for jilted lovers and discourage kicking people out of wedding parties. Then, your letters: My boyfriend period-shames me. My fiancé has been postponing our marriage for five years. Does it still count as rape if I didn’t explicitly say “no”? Should I tell my sister-in-law that her kids’ grandpa is a convicted sex offender? And finally: I’m a lesbian, but I want to stay in my heterosexual marriage to preserve my family. Is that wrong?

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