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Help! I’m Embarrassed by My Husband’s Obsessive and Rude Social Media Use.

Help! I’m Embarrassed by My Husband’s Obsessive and Rude Social Media Use.

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Sept. 6 2017 11:00 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Checking In” Edition

My husband obsessively tags people on social media—often against their will, and even after he inadvertently exposed a friend’s affair.

Tagging people obsessively on social media
Tagging people obsessively on social media

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Also: I was open about my depression on social media and only some of my friends reached out to me—should I stay close with the others? The woman who ruined my marriage got hit by a car—am I horrible for feeling happy about it? My sister cheated on her husband years ago, now she’s icing out my dad because he started seeing someone after our mom got sick. How do I tell my sister she’s being a hypocrite? I’m a balding white man with a shaved head—could people think I’m a skinhead? I want to spend my recent windfall on my kids’ school, but my husband’s already earmarking it for himself. How do I tell my friend I won’t hang out with her if she doesn’t deal with her body odor?

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