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Help! Yes, I Survived Cancer, but Can We Please Stop Talking About My Hair?

Help! Yes, I Survived Cancer, but Can We Please Stop Talking About My Hair?

Advice on manners and morals.
Aug. 23 2017 7:30 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Strangers on a Train” Edition

I’m a cancer survivor. How do I get people to stop commenting on my hair growing back? Help!

Photo illustration by Slate. Photos by Thinkstock.

Photo illustration by Slate. Photos by Thinkstock.

Today, it’s a coming out party for all! First, my dad wants my brother to wait to tell our conservative grandma he’s gay, but I think he should come out now. I told my friend I loved her, but now I want her out of my life and she won’t go away. My parents stifled my creativity as a kid and now I’m terrified to try to use my artistic talents. I’m a cancer survivor—how do I tell my well-meaning co-workers to stop commenting on my hair growing back? My dead husband was a monster and I’m the only one who knows—should I tell my daughters what he did? And finally: Is it transphobic to want a divorce from a partner who wants to transition?

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