Dear Prudence podcast: The “Pray on This” edition.

Help! Is My Boyfriend Actually a Creepy Stalker?

Help! Is My Boyfriend Actually a Creepy Stalker?

Advice on manners and morals.
Aug. 30 2017 8:45 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Pray on This” Edition

My boyfriend took pictures of me before we were dating. Is he a stalker? Help!

Guy spying on another person before they started dating.
Is this creepy? If you have to ask...

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First up: An exciting update on the one true way to date a former boss and how Prudie helped make it happen. Then, your letters, with Vice writer Noah Kulwin: My mom wants me to discourage my daughter from doing “boy” things. My friends are convinced my boyfriend is a stalker. My girlfriend wants me to come out to my grandparents even if it means they’ll cut me off. My boyfriend has bad table manners, and I’m worried it’s going to have professional consequences for him. I didn’t hit it off with my friend’s brother and now she won’t let it go. How do I support a business trying to unionize? And finally: Is there a way to ask out a former student that isn’t creepy?

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