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Help! My Sister Says She Was Abused, but I Don’t Remember.

Help! My Sister Says She Was Abused, but I Don’t Remember.

Advice on manners and morals.
April 19 2017 7:45 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Dickensian” Edition

My sibling insists she suffered an abusive childhood that I just don’t remember. Help!

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Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Thinkstock.

Prudence is joined by award-winning Bay Area writer Charlie Jane Anders to give award-winning advice. First: My sister says she suffered abuse when we were younger, but I don’t remember. Then, some parental problems: My parents are controlling all my life decisions; I keep chickening out from telling my mom I’m moving away with my partner; and my mom forced me to get an abortion when I was young, and I’m still traumatized. Plus, an etiquette lesson: I don’t want to call people sir or ma’am anymore, but everyone in my community will think I’m rude.

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