Dear Prudence podcast: The “Anti-Pronoun” edition.

Advice for a Writer About Gender-Neutral Pronouns and the Singular “They,” on the Dear Prudie Podcast

Advice for a Writer About Gender-Neutral Pronouns and the Singular “They,” on the Dear Prudie Podcast

Advice on manners and morals.
April 12 2017 7:45 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Anti-Pronoun” Edition

Advice for a writer about gender-neutral pronouns and the singular “they.”



Among the many lessons in this week’s podcast, don’t forget that, “Nine times out of 10, it is not a good idea to steal someone else’s pet.”

Also this week:

  • I’m not comfortable using the singular “they” to refer to trans people—could you make something else up for me?
  • My husband refuses to do anything about his snoring, and it’s keeping my family up at night.
  • My friend overcharged me for rent and lied about it; I moved out, and now our mutual friends think I’m the jerk.
  • What’s the most ethical way to quit my sketchy Craigslist job?

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