Dear Prudence podcast: The “Oppression Olympics” edition.

Help! How Do I Convince My Friend That He Benefits From White Privilege?

Help! How Do I Convince My Friend That He Benefits From White Privilege?

Advice on manners and morals.
Feb. 15 2017 7:03 AM

Dear Prudence: The “Oppression Olympics” Edition

My friend thinks his Irish heritage means he can’t be racist. Help!

What do you mean by white privilege
Not all white men!

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Prudie offers some advice on how to carry on if you’re feeling totally hopeless about the state of the world. Then, writer Shafiqah Hudson joins Prudence to tackle talking to a white friend who denies his privilege, confronting a friend who abandoned you and then acts like nothing happened, and dealing with a sister who defiled your DIY project. Plus, what to do when your parents are in hospice, but your family keeps promising them that they’re going to get better.

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