Dear Prudence podcast: The “Cats Can Be Gay” edition.

Help! Why Does My Lesbian Friend Call Everything “Gay”?

Help! Why Does My Lesbian Friend Call Everything “Gay”?

Advice on manners and morals.
Feb. 22 2017 2:01 PM

Dear Prudence: The “Cats Can Be Gay” Edition

It drives me crazy when my lesbian friend calls inanimate objects “gay.” Help!



If you don’t like it when people say “no problem,” then you’re the one with the problem, Prudie says. Then onto your questions, with help from friend and biochemist Brandon Taylor:

  • How do I talk to my adopted black daughter about race?
  • My husband won’t keep his hands off me in public!
  • I’m gay—what next?
  • Why does my friend call inanimate objects “gay”?
  • I can’t talk about my kids from a previous marriage without my husband getting jealous.

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