Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The “Devil’s Advocate” Edition

Long-term grudges, marriage as an endurance sport, and the problem of the “benign” racist.

What if your family member were the cheater? Mallory and special guest Carvell Wallace advise a letter writer whose sister is refusing to invite their home-wrecking stepdad to her wedding. And they discuss how you should support a sibling who commits adultery through the resulting divorce.

Plus, a woman whose husband forced her to have a child she didn’t want, your white friend who’s not as “woke” as she thinks, and why you should just say no to the “Don’t Tread on Me” snake.

Access to the full Dear Prudence podcast is available exclusively to Slate Plus members. Learn more and listen to previous episodes at Slate.com/PrudiePod.

Got a question for Prudie? Send it to prudence@slate.com. Or leave a voice mail message at 401-371-DEAR (3327), and you may hear your question answered on a future episode of the show.

Read Prudie’s Slate columns here. Follow Mallory on Twitter. Production by Casey Miner.