So how does all this work in practice? Here’s my story. My daughter was born in November 2011: my first child and my first experience navigating any child care system. Because I work as a writer and a consultant, I’m able to have some flexibility in my schedule, but I also absolutely had to start working again when Sophia was 2 months old. After about a month of searching, I was able to establish a nanny share with another mother for 15 hours a week. We paid our nanny 11 euros an hour, and on top of this, we paid into her health, pension, unemployment, and vacation. The total gross cost to me per month: around 450 euros. However, because we declared her and paid her social charges, I received a monthly rebate from the government for about 270 euros—the amount is based on our family salary. My net cost was a very affordable 180 euros ($234) per month for 60 hours of childcare.
This fall, Sophia’s care changed. We did not get a spot in the crèche—priority is given to families where both parents work full time—but she did get into a halte-garderie, or part-time crèche, that takes care of her three afternoons a week. I also have a part-time nanny share for about 25 hours a week. Total number of hours of child care per week: 40. Total cost to me after the rebate: 440 euros ($572) per month, or about 5,280 euros ($6,686) a year, plus an additional tax break on top of this.
An equivalent amount of care in a major city in the United States would cost between $800 and $2,000 per month—there’s a lot of variety depending on your state, but it would certainly not be the same price or cheaper as in France. And it doesn’t get easier once your child reaches preschool age—in most states, preschool costs are more than tuition at the state university.
My husband and I currently make about 60,000 euros a year before taxes, or the equivalent of about $85,000—not too bad and well over the U.S. median household income ($51,900 in 2010), but not enough to handle child care in the United States without making some difficult choices. These are choices familiar to many young families striving for both professional success and work-family balance. Would one of us have to stay home rather than pay our full salary toward a nanny? Would we move to a city where our parents live, regardless of the job opportunities there, so that we could have their help with child care? Would one of us need to take a “money” job, if we could find one, that we didn’t love in order to afford care for our kids? Here, because care is so affordable, we don’t need to answer any of these questions.
In researching this article, I spoke to many of my friends all over the United States in similar situations, all with one or two children, all with both parents working. All but one—a pair of married engineers who could afford a $2,000-a-month nanny—were dissatisfied with their child care options. No one declared their nanny or paid her benefits—sometimes at the nanny’s request. According to the 2011 Park Slope Parents Nanny Survey, only 15 percent of families paid their nannies completely on the books; the United States does not make it easy or affordable for most families to do this. In France, I wouldn’t say it’s easy—there are still major immigration issues here—but it is definitely affordable to declare your child’s nanny. Because of government rebates, it can actually be less expensive to hire a declared worker and pay her benefits than to pay her under the table. And I like being able to do this; I like knowing that the person who cares for my child will have health care and paid vacation time. I like that the system here treats child care like a real job and makes it easy and possible for employers to do right by their caregivers. This kind of incentivized legality seems like a policy even Republicans could get behind.
My husband and I now joke that we’re trapped by socialism—once those Europeans get hold of you, with their high taxes and affordable health care and child care, it’s hard to break free. It’s certainly hard for us to imagine returning to the United States on our current salaries. But though we make less money and pay more taxes in France, we haven’t felt the hit as hard—in fact, with health care, child care, and education so affordable, our money seems to go further. Maybe a little socialism would give American women a better shot at having it all.