Prudie advises a bi-sexual man with a dirty secret, and other advice seekers.

Emily Yoffe Writes: I'm back from vacation and looking forward to your letters. It's always good to miss the extended power outage at your home while you were away. But then there's coming home to the contents of your refrigerator.

Q.Bi Man Unintentionally Opens Can of Worms With In-Laws: I have a rather unusual problem, and I don't feel I have anywhere to turn but you. I'm a 33-year-old man who's been married for seven years. The issue is, I am bi-sexual and have known so for quite some time. My quandary is, about a month ago I responded to a posting on Craigslist. It was from an older gentleman who, like myself, is bi and was looking for some discreet fun. In responding to the ad, I sent a faceless/headless picture of myself without a shirt on. He responded back to me with some pictures that were a bit more graphic and a phone number. Upon seeing the number, I became immediately undone. It was the cell phone number of my wife's dad—my father-in-law! Once I realized it was him, I never responded back to him. I received several e-mails subsequently asking me what was going on and if I was still interested. However, not only did he e-mail me from his personal e-mail address, stupidly, he used the joint one with my mother-in-law. Fast-forward a few weeks. My mother-in-law was checking e-mail and somehow found the exchange between my father-in-law and myself. Obviously, and justifiably, she has become hysterical. She found the e-mail that I sent to him (from an anonymous e-mail address) that had my picture. It gets worse; she told my wife and her sister and brother, and they are trying to figure out who this guy is who "seduced" dad. At this point, I am freaking out as my wife is wanting to see my picture, but her mother has not shown it to her yet. Do I bite the bullet and let the cat out of the bag that I am the two-home home wrecker, or should I let my wife and in-laws continue to play detective? I feel such guilt as my wife cries on my shoulder as she tells me the latest developments every day.

A: Your posting didn't say, "I like pina coladas, and getting lost in the rain," did it? Because your letters sounds like an updated version of the dreadful Rupert Holmes song. Though I would like to see a movie version of this in which Robert De Niro and Ben Stiller end up as the lovely couple, it's time for someone in this family to be straight about not being straight. If you are committed to sending out headless photos of yourself in order to cheat on your wife with other men, you have to tell her about this right now. It's not just because you want to get ahead of her having that flash of recognition when she sees the photo of the "seducer's" torso and recognizes the pattern of moles. It's because you are lying and cheating and potentially endangering your wife's health.

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Q. Good News/Bad News:I am pregnant with twins after years of bad luck and infertility issues. I just started telling friends and family my happy news. One close friend who lives far away, I will actually see for a day this weekend. I am dreading telling her about the pregnancy, though, because I fear that for her, it's bad news. She is in her mid-30s and for the past few years has been living with a guy who refuses to ask her to marry him. She is negative toward others getting engaged and often avoids seeing her friends with kids. I know how hard it was to hear others announce pregnancies when we were trying for so long with no luck, so I can understand how hard it is for her to hear that her friends are moving forward with their life cycles while hers is stagnant. I was thinking of telling her over the phone before the weekend to avoid putting a damper on our one day together. What's the best way to deliver my good news/her bad news?

A: Sure, it reminds you of your own disappointment when others are experiencing things you long for, but I really dislike the idea that someone's good news is someone else's bad news—unless these people are in the finals for American Idol or presidential candidates. Your pregnancy is not robbing your friend of her chance for children of her own. And if she can't deal with others' good news, then she needs to address her own unhappiness, not resent her friends' good fortune. But definitely tell your friend over the phone. That will give her time to absorb your news and cancel the visit if she'd prefer to stew about her own unhappiness.

Q.Baby Arrival Etiquette: OK, so we're slackers. Big slackers. Our second arrived at the end of January. When I was home, I was on the ball and ordered lovely announcements featuring our new bundle and his big sister. They arrived. Then there was a problem with our printer (no way I'm hand-writing all those addresses). Then life. Needless to say, the announcements still haven't gone out. Aside from our son being able to hold this above our heads as "I'm the second child, you clearly don't care about me," my husband is adamant that we don't send them out anymore—past the expiration date, so to speak. I want to send them out, maybe going so far as to get a stamp made for the envelope "Yeah, we're late, but we still wanted to share," or at least scribble it on the outside. Gauche? Or OK to admit we're swamped?

A: This reminds me that there are still some birth announcements I didn't get out—however, I think once your daughter has been bat mitzvahed, you probably don't want people sending you onesies, anyway.

Since your son isn't old enough to walk to the announcements and say, "When are you sending these?" I think you're still OK. Why not have a little note printed up saying that while you're late with your good news, you wanted people to know about your new addition before you started paying college tuition for him.

Q.Party Pooper: I witnessed an uncomfortable situation over the weekend, and it's over and done with, but I was wondering if you had an opinion on what happened. Let's see if I can summarize briefly. I was at a kid's birthday, one of the mothers there was yelling at her two children the entire time. I overheard her saying the youngest has an ear infection—he looked to be about 2. From what I could see, the children were not misbehaving. And she wasn't just yelling at them; she was being very nasty—it was making me uncomfortable. Well, my friend's neighbor confronted her quietly about the way she was speaking to her kids, and it set her off. She started yelling and screaming about being a good mother and she wasn't going to have someone tell her how to raise her kids and she left. The scene that was caused was unfortunate because it upset some of the kids, but I was glad someone said something to her because she left, and I wasn't happy witnessing the way she was speaking to her children—although thinking about it now, if that's the way she was in front of others, she's probably worse in private. Do you think it was right of the woman to confront her, or should we have all just left it alone and let her scream at her children all day?