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Dear Prudence,

I have a problem I cannot discuss with anyone and hope you can help. I am getting married in two months, and I am scared to death that my future hubby will have a bachelor party in which the guys go to certain "clubs" or they will have the entertainment brought in. I am normally not insecure, however ... my first husband ended up having sex with the entertainment at his bachelor party. I am driving myself crazy just thinking that it could happen again. I told my honey prior to our engagement that if we ever get married and he has a party, he'll be at the altar all by himself. Am I crazy? Am I irrational? I will follow whatever advice you give.

—Thanks for the help,

Uncertain

Dear Un,

There is nothing that can spook a girl like a mate who has sex with the entertainment. In this case, however, with your intended husband-the-second well aware of your history with certain "clubs," it is Prudie's hunch that either a) there will be no bachelor party, or b) it will be at Chuck E. Cheese's. Try to communicate to him that you have the utmost faith in his judgment and his fidelity. And when the big day comes, mazel-ton, which of course means tons of luck.

—Prudie, matrimonially

Dear Prudie,

About a year ago, my sister-in-law told me she wasn't feeling well, and she just "knew" it was cancer. At that point, she didn't see any reason to go to the doctor because she already knew what was wrong. Within a week of that conversation, she claims she was diagnosed with cancer, given a prescription for medical marijuana, and began chemotherapy treatment. It has now been a year that she claims to continually be on chemotherapy. She will not allow anyone to take her to the doctor's office and refuses to "use" her prescription for marijuana; instead she has my brother buying it through drug dealers (because it's cheaper?). She hasn't lost any hair, and she hasn't lost any weight. (In fact she may have gained 10-15 pounds.) I've tried to talk to my brother about taking her to the doctor, but he just says, "This is something she wants to handle on her own." When I asked about the doctor bills, he said the "tribe" is paying for all her medical expenses. My dilemma is whether I should stick my nose into this any further. I have considered following her when she goes to a "chemotherapy treatment" and then reporting to my brother. I just feel this whole situation is ridiculous, but I don't want my brother to end up hating me.

—Want To Catch a Faker

Dear Want,

This is a very odd scenario, not to mention medically far-fetched. People do not diagnose their own cancers and one week later tell you a doctor confirmed it and they've begun chemo ... which then lasts for a year. A likelier scenario is that your s-i-l decided she liked smoking pot and figured she could do it out in the open if it were for medicinal purposes—like bourbon for a snakebite. While marijuana is actually an effective anti-nausea agent for chemo, as you no doubt have read, very few states allow medical marijuana, so this girl telling you her husband scores it on the street so she doesn't have to "use" her prescription is beyond strange. (Besides the fact that she's making a lawbreaker out of him.) Cancer patients are not likely to gain weight, as you correctly guess. The situation you describe sounds more like she's getting the munchies after a "treatment." As for her "tribe" paying the medical bills, are we talking about a Native American here? Finally, regarding your brother, you are in no danger of his "hating you." I suspect you've mentioned your doubts about his wife's "illness," so he is either kidding you or himself about what sounds like a pot habit with a lame cover story.

—Prudie, stonily

Dear Prudence,

With the holidays fast approaching, we have a family dilemma that needs outside intervention. We are three sisters, all with families; two are married, one divorced with a live-in boyfriend of about 15 months. It has been our family tradition, in the past, to exchange names for Christmas presents. Last year the live-in was not included. This year, the sister with the live-in wants him "in the hat" for the drawing. One married sister says: "No, family only. When you get married, he's in the hat." The other married sister waffles on her opinion. Do you have an opinion?