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Dearest Prudie,

You are my last hope for marital bliss. Before I married, I assumed that my husband and I would share money equally. Unfortunately, he has a different notion of equality than I. His income far exceeds mine, by a factor of 3-to-1. What is a (literally) poor liberal arts grad to do? If we each put an equal amount toward common living expenses, that eats up a much larger percentage of my income. Is it fair to ask a wife to maintain a living standard far beneath her husband's? Should I have stayed within my income bracket when searching for a life partner? Why is no one talking about this type of marriage penalty?

—Texas Newlywed

Dear Tex,

This is hard to track. Do you two live together? If you do, how can you have a standard of living below your husband's? (Does he put the good stuff on his side of the fridge?) Prudie agrees with you, though, that marriage should be one for all and all for one, but not everyone sees it this way. It is a given in the advice business that the two main problems in marriage are sex and money.

Your spouse sounds ungenerous at best, so perhaps some third-party mediating might be useful. It probably won't make the guy more generous, but it might at least make it clearer to him that you feel like less than a full partner. Prudie is wondering what the rest of relationship is like with Mr. Chintzy, but of course she wishes you the best.

—Prudie, fairly

Dear Prudence,

My wife and I had a bit of a windfall. She asked if she could redo our house, and I said sure. The problem is not that she is overspending (repeat: windfall) but that her taste seems to have morphed into something quite, well, splashy. She's selected bold prints, many colors, and ultramodern design. I have always felt the home was the wife's domain, but I'm not sure whether to voice my true opinion or not. Basically, I guess if it makes her happy, it's fine.