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Dear Prudence,

I am engaged to a young man (we're both 23), and we have never consummated our relationship. I am becoming mildly concerned because my fiance has confided that he is not being "moral," he just has real trouble getting in position, if you receive my drift, to participate in "the act." He says at first he thought he just had a low sex drive, then he faced reality and figured out he was impotent. I don't want to break it off just because of this. He is a wonderful person, and we get along very well. Can you suggest a useful way to deal with this problem?

—Blushing and Maybe Celibate Bride

Dear Blush,

First of all, do know that you are by no means alone. For whatever reason, Prudie has been hearing from other young people who are dealing with the willy-nilly problem. And since Prudie does not practice medicine, probably the smartest thing she could do would be to recommend guidance from someone who does. A Harvard endocrinologist has just written an authoritative book for lay people (no pun intended) that will help you tackle the problem. This highly credentialed and well-recognized doc is Richard F. Spark, and the book is Sexual Health for Men. There is much information in it, and many remedies are suggested. Your young man will most likely wind up being treated by a doctor, and you will live happily ever after.

—Prudie, optimistically

Dear Prudence,

I'm writing to you about something I've noticed in a few of your columns, most recently the March 30 edition. You refer to gay men as "nature's bachelors." I hate to gripe about such a small thing, especially when you seem to be so fair-minded and refreshingly gay-positive. But there's just something about that term that rankles. I think my problem with the term is that we're not nature's bachelors, we are, unfortunately, society's bachelors. If I could, I'd marry my partner right now. Perhaps you could find a different charming euphemism.

Thanks for a wonderful column.