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Dear Prudence,

My two best friends recently celebrated the birth of their first child, and I'm his godfather. They don't have a lot of money, and I've helped them out in hard times before. They would like to have the child circumcised but can't afford it. Would it be appropriate to offer this as a sort of "baby gift"? And how should I go about "presenting" this gift?

—Sincerely,

Earnest Godfather

Dear Earn,

If your friends are Jewish, ask around for a mohel and then organize a bris. You can host a little party at their place, bringing the treats—and the mohel. If your pals are Christian, tell them the visit to the obstetrician or the urologist is on you. To be graceful, say you know this is an unusual baby gift, but a useful one. And Prudie does not want any mail debating the merits of circumcision.

—Prudie, traditionally

Hello, Prudie,

I have a situation: At work a very attractive married woman has been giving me mixed messages for quite some time. People in my department even thought we had a "thing" going. She has confided in me about her marriage and even her sex life. As a result, I have allowed myself (a single male) to become infatuated. But lately, she has been spending time with a married man in her own department, and I actually feel jealous! Do you have any advice other than that I need a good kick in the head? I know there is no future with this woman, but why do I feel this way?