Do Not Love Thy Neighbor

Advice on manners and morals.
Nov. 12 1999 3:30 AM

Do Not Love Thy Neighbor

Please send your questions for publication to


Dear Pru,

I am a 21-year-old male living with my girlfriend. I have two kids with her, but I've been going out with my neighbor. The problem is that my neighbor knows about my girlfriend, and I don't know what to do. What's worse, I think I'm falling in love with my neighbor. Can you help?


Dear M.,

Help you what? Move? Get unattached? Prudie is fascinated that the problem you're concerned with is your neighbor's knowing about your girlfriend. Usually a man is spooked if his significant other knows about the neighbor! Prudie must tell you that a number of things seem less than optimal here. You have barely reached your majority, yet you have already fathered two offspring--while unmarried--and are being unfaithful to the woman to whom you've presumably made a commitment. It would really be lovely, for all concerned, if you were having a goof with Prudie. On the off chance that your letter is on the level, it could be that the purpose of your life is to serve as a warning to others. If you do call it a day with the mother of your children, you will be spared a divorce ... but will remain financially responsible for child support. If you do make an alliance with the neighbor, Prudie hopes you will move. And do try to stop being so horizontally accessible. Given your age, you could very well populate the whole neighborhood.

--Prudie, alarmedly


I have a problem, I hate my brother's wife. She has been cheating on him for the past year. (They have only been married a year.) She treats him terribly, and she tells me she hates my family. I have been trying to ignore her comments, but it's impossible. Do I tell my brother how I feel or continue to hold my tongue?

--Seething in Texas


War Stories

The Right Target

Why Obama’s airstrikes against ISIS may be more effective than people expect.

The One National Holiday Republicans Hope You Forget

It’s Legal for Obama to Bomb Syria Because He Says It Is

I Stand With Emma Watson on Women’s Rights

Even though I know I’m going to get flak for it.

Should You Recline Your Seat? Two Economists Weigh In.


It Is Very, Very Stupid to Compare Hope Solo to Ray Rice

Or, why it is very, very stupid to compare Hope Solo to Ray Rice.

Building a Better Workplace

In Defense of HR

Startups and small businesses shouldn’t skip over a human resources department.

Why Is This Mother in Prison for Helping Her Daughter Get an Abortion?

It’s Fine to Use Facebook to Serve People With Legal Papers, Court Rules

  News & Politics
Sept. 23 2014 6:40 PM Coalition of the Presentable Don’t believe the official version. Meet America’s real allies in the fight against ISIS.
Sept. 23 2014 2:08 PM Home Depot’s Former Lead Security Engineer Had a Legacy of Sabotage
Sept. 23 2014 1:57 PM Would a Second Sarkozy Presidency End Marriage Equality in France?
  Double X
The XX Factor
Sept. 23 2014 2:32 PM Politico Asks: Why Is Gabby Giffords So “Ruthless” on Gun Control?
  Slate Plus
Political Gabfest
Sept. 23 2014 3:04 PM Chicago Gabfest How to get your tickets before anyone else.
Brow Beat
Sept. 23 2014 8:38 PM “No One in This World” Is One of Kutiman’s Best, Most Impressive Songs
Future Tense
Sept. 23 2014 5:36 PM This Climate Change Poem Moved World Leaders to Tears Today
  Health & Science
Sept. 23 2014 4:33 PM Who Deserves Those 4 Inches of Airplane Seat Space? An investigation into the economics of reclining.
Sports Nut
Sept. 23 2014 7:27 PM You’re Fired, Roger Goodell If the commissioner gets the ax, the NFL would still need a better justice system. What would that look like?