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Dear Prudence,

My significant other is driving me berserk. He changes religious beliefs like some people change clothes. This might be only peculiar (and therefore tolerable), but he expects me to accompany him, as well as get into the philosophy of the moment. I really do not have time for this and, to be truthful, do not share his passion for religious theory. I gave it a try but can no longer play along. How would you recommend I deal with this? (And him?)

--Pulling My Hair Out in Chicago

Dear Pull,

Your trendy friend sounds like a handful. If you are interested in maintaining the relationship, you need to spell out that lovers need not share every interest, and that his searching for new belief systems is particularly tiring for you.

It would be helpful if you had a religion that you started with and said you wished to retain but, failing that, tell the theologian that you are making a new beginning: that he has your blessings, pardon the expression, to pursue the religion of his choice ... alone. If he throws it up to you that you used to go to all the various services with him, tell him that was Zen, this is now.

--Prudie, individually

Dear Prudie,

My wife of eight years is starting to make me wonder if she is mature enough to even be married. She spends more time with her girlfriends, most of whom are from high school, than she does with me. (We have no children.) I wind up doing many things alone on weekends and in the evenings because she always has plans with "the girls." My wish is to make this marriage work because I love my wife, but I am feeling like second fiddle to a gang of girls. Any ideas?